Ex husband not complying with court orders?

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My ex will not comply with any court orders. We resume our divorce trial in Oct. He refuses to pay support. He pays for his new wife and her kids to have medical insurance but not for ours. (She has no job.) He cashed out our retirement accounts and pays all her bills. I can't garnish his wages because he's self employed.

My question: Will his behavior anger the judge? Is it true that when men take care of their new families and ignore orders to maintain their former families the judges are punitive?
My ex received a biforcation last November. Maintaining our medical was a condition of the biforcation. This allows him to remarry without the property being distributed or the final decree being filed. I have temporary support orders in excess of $3000 a month.
By punishing, I don't want revenge. I want my attorney's fees paid and, perhaps, a good talking to from the judge so he will just pay what he owes me.
We have to wait until the trial is over before filing contempt charges. We don't want any more delays. In this economy it's been very hard for me to find a job. The one I have is not enough to exist. He's going nuts spending 100s of thousands of our retirement money on his new wife. It's totally insane. I just gotta make it to Oct...I hope.
 
Make sure your lawyer raises the issue of your husband taking all the retirement money. By the way, if your divorce is NOT final (you said "we resume our divorce trial in Oct."), how can he be legally married (you refer to his "new wife"? Or is she is girlfriend that he is living with? If he is not legally married to her, he is not responsible to support her at all and he shouldn't be spending the marital assets on her.

So to answer your question, yes, the judge will be annoyed with your husband. Disobeying a court order is a major no-no and if the judge holds your "ex" in contempt-of-court, he could be fined and/or end up in jail. Make sure you document everything and only speak through your lawyer.

Good luck!

Addendum: Ignore any advice that suggest you go to mediation. That is a good way to get screwed over or pressured into giving up things that are good for you and your children in the false guise of "fairness". Many father's rights advocates today believe that a man should not be required to support his children if he doesn't want to and that the woman should shoulder the entire financial burden herself since "she wanted them". Your children are entitled to financial support from their father so don't cheat them by letting this slide. And as you were married, you are entitled to the fruits of the marriage, not some unscrupulous female he has subsequently attached himself too!
 
He has a legal requirement to pay support. His behaviour will count against him, especially when it comes to getting access and custody of the children.

However family courty is not really aim at punishing anyone. Rather it is about making divorce fair.

Try to avoid being focused on anger and punishment, because that will make you look bad.

It will also hurt you and your children.

It is this cycle of hate, attack and revenge that can make divorces so bitter and nasty.

Rather it is more healthy to focus on what you deserve for your family, whethe he should pay back the cashed out retirement accounts and so on.

If things don't turn out fair, well that is life, better to focus on building yours and attacking this loser you are better off without.

No matter what, in life, always be the better person.
 
act like adults & sit down for a conversation. involve a mediator to help you both. get counseling. look for a job that has benefits and good pay so that you can become independent. forge a relationship with the new family as they are part of your child's family. your positive response will be favorable in court & benefit the child for years to come.
 
Has the support already been ordered? Are you already divorced or no? If the support and medical are ordered, then hold him in contempt. Have your lawyer file contempt charges. He won't get away with it for long. Good luck.
 
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