Everybody's leaving... again....

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I'm so fucking lonely. Like every single one of my friends are going off to college in three months... and most of them are too busy to spend any time with me. God I haven't broke down like this since I lived with my mom! I... I have like three friends left and I rarely even get to see them. And I can't really make any more friends because my reputation to strangers at school was destroyed by that whore's rumors. And I just dont know what to do.... How the FUCK do I go about making friends? School isn't an outlet, I'm not in college yet, rumors about me have even spread to outside events! I don't know what to do. And then there's that kid that I met on the bridge. How the FUCK do I tell him that he's going to be abandoned by everybody that he's grown to like!? HOW!?
 
Just tough it out man. I know it seems hard, but you'll eventually make some more friends, and then lose them again when you go to college. Then you'll make more friends. If people take the time, they'll see how awesome of a person you are.
 
I can't imagine what you are going through right now. See, to me my friends are my family-my everything-and what keeps me going and living. If I lost all my friends, got tooken away somewhere or something I'd probably kill myself.

That was beside the point. This is what I'd do...Within' the next three months spend as much time with those friends as possible tell them how you feel about them moving away and such. Get it off your chest. Remember to smile though, and when they do leave for college and to take the next step in their lives wish them luck. Then from there, I'd try to make new friends or be alone-whatever suites me best at the time.

For as long as they are here, enjoy their company-smile-be with them-. Don't miss em' yet, they're not gone.
 
One word: Masturbate.

Loneliness sucks, I agree. Usually it only bothers me when I'm by myself. Yeah.
Basically...I NEVER GEHT LONELY BECAUSE THEY WONT LEAVE ME BE!!

Christ!

I'd kill to have some good ol' fashioned quiet time. Got kids? Buy some. I guarantee if you give it a little time you'll be digging for the receipt. All the time with the "look at me", and the "I'm talking to you, why don't you respond?", and the holy grail "Jacob has his hand stuck in the toilet again. No, he didn't flush it yet." You need some attention? Go beat up a homeless person. They don't usually follow you home afterwards and eat all the cheese in the fridge and leave you stranded on 'pack my fucking lunch day'.

Yeah, I'd like to be lonely. I'd like some masturbation time for myself and the other voices in my head. Do I geht it? FUCK NO! Do I complain of it publicly? I'd like to, but prison sex is not my cup of tea. I figure I'll geht all the lonely mental masturbation alone time when I'm dead. Savor these moments young Jedi. Savor them well, stuff them in an empty box of Fruit Loops, whatever. I can assure you just as Elvis is alive and well. It wont last.
 
Welcome to my world. My family blows and at most, I have 3 friends IRL. I only talk to one regularly (mainly online, go figure). We don't actually go and do anything. I fight with my family literally EVERYDAY and everyday, I wish so badly that I could go back to college, where I belong, even if it meant giving up WTF for good.

I can't make more friends because I generally despise people and social events make me withdraw into myself. Even in a place where I should be comfortable, like an anime club or a large roleplaying group, I'm mostly silent. On top of that, people generally diislike me as a general rule.

It's not the end of your world. You find outlets where you can and keep doing them. I don't know what you're like, so I can't suggest anything there, but if I can do it, you can do it. I find that music helps. A lot. I'll post more suggestions if they come to mind.
 
If you're doing stuff for your friends, have them do stuff for you. It's only fair. They're not taking advantage of you if they're doing stuff for you too, right?
 
Everyone goes through this when they leave High School. My entire gang of friends, but one, is going to a college about an hour and a half away from mine. Basically far enough that you won't ever visit eachother, but close enough that you could if you were desperate. You don't have to get friends at school, you could get friends anywhere, whether you just meet them in a shop, the arcades, a sport (basketball for example), anything. Think about it. Every other kid that is going to college is JUST like you. All of their friends are going to a different college, so they are going to be lonely that first week too. My brother told me about this, and he said that everyone is the nicest in the world to eachother, and it is extremely easy to make friends.

Aka: Problem: Not enough friends.
Suggested Solution: Get new ones outside of school at stores, arcades, sports, anything.

Problem: You don't hang out with your friends as much as you would like.
Suggested Solution: Call them the next time you get bored and have them hang out with you. If they are busy, have them tell you a day that they aren't and when on that day they can make time to hang out with you.

Problem: Breaking down.
Suggested Solution: Take GehtFuct's advice.

Problem: Person on bridge.
Suggested Solution: What the hell are you talking about? You need to take those pills ONCE A DAY not ONCE A WEEK, go pop a couple right quick.
 
Aw... I know exactly how you feel right now. All of my close friends (save for one) left for college out of state. And the one friend of mine that is left confines herself to her house all day, and never seems to want to hang out anymore because she's too busy playing Guild Wars. It's the worst, ever!

But what you probably aren't realizing is that you DO still have some friends left, you just haven't spent time with them in a long time. It's good to reinforce the friendships you used to have with other people in the past. It'll make you feel a lot better. :) And through them, you'll meet more people, and through those people, you'll meet more people. And when you can go clubbing or out to bars, you'll meet even more!

Life won't end after highschool, though it may feel like it will at times. Just do what others have said above me, tough it out, grin and bear it... :) Everything'll turn out fine. Trust in that.
 
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