alicialions
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...parents...something in their childhood? I don't mean children and teens, I mean in adulthood? The way it seems to me, there hasn't been a good job done by anyone in all of history.
Every heard of anyone that didn't complain about their...
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miss greenie
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Oh I think it's natural for the next generation to pick on the previous one's methods. It's been happening all through time. I think it's almost evolutionary in a way. As in, the situation wherein you're old enough to see where your folks went wrong and you believe you can learn from their mistakes. How do you ever detach from parents otherwise?
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
ms manners
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Most people complain.
Those who had really lousy parents complain about big things, people who had pretty good parents complain about small things. Once in a while you run into someone who thinks his parents actually did a good job.
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I think that has more to do with human nature than the ability of people to raise children. Most people seem to enjoy finding fault.
In the end we all spend more time raising ourselves than our parents spent raising us, and we need to take responsibility for our own decisions.
Those who had really lousy parents complain about big things, people who had pretty good parents complain about small things. Once in a while you run into someone who thinks his parents actually did a good job.
)I think that has more to do with human nature than the ability of people to raise children. Most people seem to enjoy finding fault.
In the end we all spend more time raising ourselves than our parents spent raising us, and we need to take responsibility for our own decisions.
miss greenie
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Oh I think it's natural for the next generation to pick on the previous one's methods. It's been happening all through time. I think it's almost evolutionary in a way. As in, the situation wherein you're old enough to see where your folks went wrong and you believe you can learn from their mistakes. How do you ever detach from parents otherwise?
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
miss greenie
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Oh I think it's natural for the next generation to pick on the previous one's methods. It's been happening all through time. I think it's almost evolutionary in a way. As in, the situation wherein you're old enough to see where your folks went wrong and you believe you can learn from their mistakes. How do you ever detach from parents otherwise?
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
miss greenie
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Oh I think it's natural for the next generation to pick on the previous one's methods. It's been happening all through time. I think it's almost evolutionary in a way. As in, the situation wherein you're old enough to see where your folks went wrong and you believe you can learn from their mistakes. How do you ever detach from parents otherwise?
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
miss greenie
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Oh I think it's natural for the next generation to pick on the previous one's methods. It's been happening all through time. I think it's almost evolutionary in a way. As in, the situation wherein you're old enough to see where your folks went wrong and you believe you can learn from their mistakes. How do you ever detach from parents otherwise?
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
But I agree this new-age trend of bitterly blaming your parents for every little mistake that could have been made is unecessary and overdramatic. But then again parents are more and more taking the easy way out these days. It's tough to know if one side is better than the other.
Every parent makes mistakes, no one is going to have a perfect childhood.
But anyone who dwells on their parents mistakes is just being over-dramatic and self-centered.
Comes a point when-- no matter what someone did in our childhood-- we need to realize we're adults and take responsibility for our own actions from there.
We can't keep pointing back and blaming others-- not even in cases of abuse or neglect. Because it just keeps people stuck instead of moving forward.
And I am not being insensitive-- I was an abused child; and my husband was abandoned and spent half his youth being raised in an institution by state employees. We both realized a long time ago that blaming other people for your problems keeps you powerless. Accepting responsibility for yourself and your future gives you control over it.
But anyone who dwells on their parents mistakes is just being over-dramatic and self-centered.
Comes a point when-- no matter what someone did in our childhood-- we need to realize we're adults and take responsibility for our own actions from there.
We can't keep pointing back and blaming others-- not even in cases of abuse or neglect. Because it just keeps people stuck instead of moving forward.
And I am not being insensitive-- I was an abused child; and my husband was abandoned and spent half his youth being raised in an institution by state employees. We both realized a long time ago that blaming other people for your problems keeps you powerless. Accepting responsibility for yourself and your future gives you control over it.