Educated opinions on teenagers and sex?

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I know I probably sound like every other stupid teenager out there, practically begging for STDs and pregnancy, but seriously, sex?
I've been with my boyfriend for quite some time. He's respectful to the point where he will barely even mention sex around me. But honestly, I'm rather aware of his opinions on it, from what he's told to his friends and from the few things he's let slip on the subject.
He wants to have sex but respects me too much to even mention it! In a way, I almost feel like the villain. Because he doesn't know that I wouldn't say no!
And I know that y!a is going to tell me that if I'm a stupid teenager I should shut up and wait until marriage, but is it -ever- possible that are teenagers who can handle the aftermath of sex?
Are there reasons that one SHOULD have sex?
How do you know if you are responsible enough?
Honestly, I find nothing attractive in the way of denying your body something natural.
To "taytay"
I was not asking if the YahooAnswers Community believed I was ready to have sex. I was simply insinuating that the media proclaims that teenagers in general cannot handle it and I genuinely wondered if it's possible for that there are teenagers who are actually still responsible.

To "deSade"
I'm glad you see me that way. I try my best to stand above my peers and it's encouraging to know that I'm doing a good job.
 
if you have to question your responsibility
and if you can't afford the cost of having a child of paying for herpes meds without your parents then you are too young to have sex
 
In my opinion, sex shouldn't be just to have sex,
it should be to make love,
because you actually LOVE them.
get it..love is the central idea.
 
The aftermath of sex depends greatly for teens. For me, it led to requests of threesomes with my best friend, anal sex, emotional issues, and digestive issues. It's a huge turmoil, but it all depends on how you handle it.

No one should HAVE to have sex. It's a choice of comfort and sharing your body with the one you care for. Another reason is just to have it for the pleasure. I prefer the first because the best feeling in the world is the ecstasy the love produces.

You'll know you're responsible enough if you feel perfectly ready, are a little nervous, absolutely know that you should protect yourself (aka: going on the pill before hand [or another high percentage contraceptive], using a form of condom [cervical ca, diaphram, condom]). You should also have the feeling that this is right...not the sense of guilt. If the guilt is there, you're just not ready.

Sex IS natural. We all know that. It isn't just for married people, because you can be in love but not ready for marriage, and that doesn't make it any less loving. It's a natural act and it feels fantastic if it's with the right person.

There's always going to be the pregnancy scares, the "I'm not good in bed" scares, the STD scares, the emotional turmoil, etc. The point across is just taking care of those scares and moving on.

Teenagers CAN handle it...it's just a matter of whether or not we choose to handle it maturely and intelligently rather than making rash decisions before we're ready for the consequences.
 
If you and this boy break up can you handle the aftermath of your sexual relationshup?Im sure that you will think about all the new girls he will now have sex with.

-- 'You should wait because your body is precious, STDS are knocking at your door abd pregnancy is not a joke. Sex is not just fun & games.

When you have the ability to handle the consequences of sex you might be responsible. example babies. I know you can't take care of your urges because you live witjh your parents, so wait. He's not even asking for anything. Ofcourse he wants to have sex! Most people want to .
 
First of all, you sound like quite an intelligent and articulate young woman. There are many teenagers who can handle sex and the responsibilities that come along with it. While sex is simply a physical and instinctual act, it needs to be taken seriously at times (ie contraception, self-control, respect and the ability to get out of an unhealthy relationship). Also, there are plenty of reasons to have sex once you've reached a level of maturity about it: it feels good, it releases endorphins, it brings you and your partner to a deeper plateau in your relationship (which is a good thing when with a trusted and/or respectful partner), it is exercise and so on and so forth.

Just make sure you have the self-respect and control necessary to commit to a healthy sexual relationship. Good luck.
 
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