Doubt Life Can Get Much Worse....

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Ok, let me start off with a friendly hello. Alot of you probably don't remember me but I was active on this board way back when. My life started improving a bit so I didn't feel the need to keep constantly posting as I did before. But, like the old saying goes, "all good things must come to an end." And damnit does that saying mean what it says.

To start off, my current life is deteriorating day by day. It's hard to go to sleep at nights because I know waking up the next morning is just going to lead to more bad news for me. But, besides alot of minor day to day issues, I have one a top three that I think are unparalleled at the current moment.

1. Felony Pending
2. Joining the Navy/Getting a Job
3. Recent Breakup

--Felony Pending--
Well, basically, the first and highest on my list would have to be a felony that's currently pending against me based on an altercation that happened with me and one of my friends about 4 weeks ago. Basically, friend and I are walking through downtown when he decides to start some trouble with a group of guys standing on a street corner. Words are exchanged and while Im right next to my friend, I had no intention of ever fighting with the group of guys. Although, I wish I could have said the same for my friend. Being the jackass that he is, he punches one of the guys and knocks him out. But, instead of the group jumping on him, for some odd reason they decide to start jumping on me. I try to struggle my way out, but with 5 grown men grabbing and punching me from every which way, it was an extremely hard task. Finally, I get loose of the jumble and begin to make my way down the street away from the crowd. Behind me, I see one of the guys walking behind me. Nervous they were coming back for more, I began to run. Little did I know the police were with the guy so it actually looked as if I was running. Well, to make a long story short, the police caught me for public fighting and disobeying a lawful order. I was in the city for 36 hours until for a reason unbeknown to me, the charges were dropped and I was released. But there was a catch to this ordeal. A day after I was released, detectives came to my house asking to speak. Being extremely afraid of going back to jail, I agreed to speak with them and went downtown and told them the truth. A week later they came back again but this time I asked to speak with a lawyer. Since then the detectives have not been back, but now it appears on my record that I have a pending felony for assault & battery because I guess the guy my friend hit had to undergo a crainiotomy. So I'm fucked!!

--Joining the Navy--
My second dilemna is that of getting a job. Since I haven't been doing extremely well at my community college, I decided to take this semester off, get a job, move out, and continue my studies next semester after Im settled. But, my recent job search has turned up little results. I haven't been called back on any of my applications, possibly because of the pending felony I currently have. So, going of the advice of one of my friends, I decided to give the navy a try. I went up to the recruiting office, took the practice test and got a really good score on it. The recruiter even stated that based on my scores and high school GPA, I may qualify for the officers program. But, I fear that since I have an assault on my record from when I was 15 as well as excessive traffic tickets, they will not even consider my application. Not to mention this now pending serious felony. Therefore, if this doesn't go through, I'll be stuck with no job and no money.

--Breakup--
Now, the icing on the cake happened just a couple days ago. A girl I've been talking too for the last few months decided to call it quits on me. Now, just to clear up some info, Im only 18 years old and the girl I "was" currently with is around 26 years of age. So, basically I've only dated girls around 22 - 23 so this was sort of a challenge I was looking forward to. I also really liked this girl and for the past 2 months, she had been coming over almost every day. But, a couple days ago, she came over to visit and was cool when she arrived. But, for some odd reason, she took an extremely small bruise on my neck to be a hickey. I thought it was ridiculous but she took it seriously and left in a fury after my many attempts to explain to her that it wasn't a hickey but a bruise from just messing around with my friends. So, I texted her after she left asking if she was finished with me. She replied about three hours later stating that she was so I continued to explain for the next two hours that it was not a hickey and she was taking some little thing extremely out of proportion. I thought my efforts worked because she said she would talk to me about it the next day. Next day comes around and she doesn't speak to me. So, I decide to text her in the evening seeing whats up and if she still is finished with me. She says again that she's cool on me and that I made her look stupid by having a marked up neck. I didn't feel the need to sit there and explain myself again so I just left it at that. But now, two days later, I don't know what to do with myself. Should I text her on some friendly "whatsup with the weekend" type shit? Fuck it let her go? I don't know man, I do not know.

---End--

So, based on this long book I hope you read entirely, I just need some advice on what I should do with my life. I've hit a point where it's just like no need to go on. I'm 18 and my life is fitting to be in shambles over a crime I did not commit and now I have no reason to move on in life. I just need some advice man, anything helps at this point!
 
This may sound trite, but I'm not meaning it that way, I've been there. When you're at the bottom there's nowhere to go but up. Sometimes life just fucks you over so bad. You just gotta make it work, that's all there is to it. There's no single solution, no single idea to help you out of this. But you can live through it.

You can go on and in times to come some of the best times of your life are waiting. But you gotta endure the hard ones to make it there.

Get a lawyer, forget the Navy if the Felony is being processed, and find a job. If there's anyone who can help, have them help you, even if you have to ask very nicely. If there's nobody, I'm sorry for that too. This life is rough as shit man. I was homeless when I was 17-18, and I got in trouble with the law at 18. I survived. Since then to now, I've had some fucking great times.

It's worth it if you make it worth it. Good luck. You can do it if you wanna.
 
1.) Life can ALWAYS get worse. Do not ever think that it can't because it can. Stop thinking you have problems start thinking you have opportunities.

To your issue one - it was your fault. You elected to put yourself in that position therefore anything that happened after that was your fault. I have never been charged with felony anything because I don't associate with people that would cause that sort of scene/issue. Perhaps if you want something different out of your life now is the time to consider how you select your friends.

Issue two - Study harder. You are obviously not illiterate. You can compose yourself well so the only conclusion I can draw is you don't want it enough and you're making excuses. Employers can't see pending felonies, they can only see convictions. You haven't been convicted of anything yet and it's a tough market for everyone right now. The Navy wouldn't be a bad choice for you but given the amount of whine you're putting in this post the military will chew you up. Harden up, make smarter choices and take personal responsibility for your life.

Issue three what the hell is a twenty six year old woman doing with an eighteen year old anyway? You're eighteen, you should be out meeting lots of people, learning from them, (take from that what you will) and finding someone who trusts you enough to give you benefit of doubt which she obviously does not. You should be over-fucking-joyed you found this out now.

In short:
If your life sucks, change it, and stop bitching about it.
 
Ya, I know I probably sound somewhat of a pussy but believe me when I say I'm not tryna make excuses for what has been happening to me. I know most of it was due to things I've done, but at the same time, some of this shit was just things that I couldn't control. And, too make matters worse, it seems as if everything has come crashing down all around the same time. So, believe me when I say I'm not whining, but just stuck in a rut and need some helpful advice.
 
This is about the 26-year-old. I think you should forget about her she seems like she was using you or something. With all the other stuff you have going on in your life you would be better off not having girl troubles as well. You are only 18 and you probably want to go out and have fun but right now it seems like you need to focus on yourself and get yourself out of your legal and financial troubles. I also say get a good lawyer or at least good legal aid.
 
I feel your pain. Three and a half months ago my girlfriend of three years left me for a much older man. To make matters worse, I was days away from "tieing the knot" so to speak. Trust me when I say this. Your entire life can change in a day-even in a second sometimes. Just don't give up. Like Coa said, it can ALWAYS get worse.

If I were you, I would let the issue with the girl go (trust me on this one), deal with the felony charges accordingly, and perhaps try going to college?
 
Wow I was homeless when I was eighteen too,but I suppose I always knew it was coming as they've threatened me many time in the past and I sort of had the inkling suspicion that once I was 18 I'd no longer be a minor and I'd be in deep trouble then.Also right now I managed to get back home after a big ordeal with my family,and they now threaten me in other ways,like they sent me to mental hospital and jail one time and also call people home to threaten me with violence.I really don't know for how much longer I can put up with their horrendous and atrocious behavior.
 
1)The felony
It's your fault for not leaving the situation, and you said you had other charges from the past on your record. This problem is all you.
2)The Navy
Lol Good luck with that, See 1)
3)Getting dumbed
I just read the first line of this one but I read enough. Move on and GROW THE FUCK UP(that applies to your other problems as well).
 
I can promise you, whenever you feel like you're at the absolute bottom of the ladder, if you look under you, you will find the one that is holding up for you. As long as you can put a hand on the rung, things CAN improve. One thing about loss(of any kind)-you always seem to find yourself standing up with a stregnth you didn't know you had. you leaned against the loyalty to your friend, and that was repayed with a charge. You leaned against the hope of a job, and it didn't happen. You leaned against the hope of the relationship with an older woman, but it seems that your a toy to her. Time to find that strength. It'll happen. Be patient.
 
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