Hello,
I love cooking- it's just something that I do well, and I love to share meals! I used to spend the weekend devising up 3 course meals and it would really feel relaxing. I think part of it was I really like us sitting down as a family and eating together.
Oh, some background info - I am a stay at home mom- we have a very traditional (somewhat boring) marriage. Lately, my husband has been really over the top with work (he really is at work!) and missing dinners. I am really mad at him for this since I feel I do not expect much from him, so why can't he just come home in time for dinner! I spend lots of energy making sure dinner is warm, and he comes home to a clean home and a loving wife - instead, he comes home after we are asleep!
He has a lot of stress at work lately, so I really don't want to discuss this with him now - it would only stress him out more.
So, instead, I have been feeling resentful. Yesterday, I decided not to make dinner. When he arrived (late again), I told him to fetch leftovers out of the fridge. THen I turned on the tv, which was my passive aggressive way to get him to sleep on teh couch (he hates the noise). Anywhoo, I have been feeling like I don't feel like doing for him anymore...I just don't feel appreciated, and what's the point??? So I cook meals for the baby and eat sandwiches myself. It was never really about eating for me - I just like the communal meal.
I don't think I will cook for him again until he can be present at home. what do you guys think?
I love cooking- it's just something that I do well, and I love to share meals! I used to spend the weekend devising up 3 course meals and it would really feel relaxing. I think part of it was I really like us sitting down as a family and eating together.
Oh, some background info - I am a stay at home mom- we have a very traditional (somewhat boring) marriage. Lately, my husband has been really over the top with work (he really is at work!) and missing dinners. I am really mad at him for this since I feel I do not expect much from him, so why can't he just come home in time for dinner! I spend lots of energy making sure dinner is warm, and he comes home to a clean home and a loving wife - instead, he comes home after we are asleep!
He has a lot of stress at work lately, so I really don't want to discuss this with him now - it would only stress him out more.
So, instead, I have been feeling resentful. Yesterday, I decided not to make dinner. When he arrived (late again), I told him to fetch leftovers out of the fridge. THen I turned on the tv, which was my passive aggressive way to get him to sleep on teh couch (he hates the noise). Anywhoo, I have been feeling like I don't feel like doing for him anymore...I just don't feel appreciated, and what's the point??? So I cook meals for the baby and eat sandwiches myself. It was never really about eating for me - I just like the communal meal.
I don't think I will cook for him again until he can be present at home. what do you guys think?