does your spouse say things to you when you argue, that he/she really does not mean?

[ERICA]

and later apologizes because they only said it out of anger?

 

[Bee]

yes its kinda normal BUT you need to talk to him and tell him to not do that its mean and disrespecting

 

[enroute]

We used to but realized that the hurt feelings of what was being said lasted longer than the arguments. Mutually we decided it had to stop and it did. It was hard but for the past few yrs it worked out.

And actually he never really did I was the guilty party. LOL!

 

[Dragonfly Girl]

We're both pretty careful about not doing that. What REALLY hurts is when they say things they DO mean but don't have the courage to say normally.... That kind of hurt takes a long damn time to fade.

 

[loneytuny]

Yes, it hurts a lot. They mean what they say than take it back. Here is a funny video to cheer you up. ;-)

 

[Lucy]

No, but I do! I do it because I know it will upset him, I no its really nasty, but I do it without thinking.

 

[Nicole]

All the time....but so do I.

 

[solly]

yes. It's put our relationship on rocky ground. You can't take back something hurtful you have already said. No matter how sorry he is, he has already hurt you.

 

[Mrs.Ellis]

When two people are arguing there is no such thing as saying things you don't mean. If you did not mean it you would not have said it. That is the bottom line my dear. The whole point is that when you are angry and acting like fools you do irrational things and say what is on your mind and in your heart. If you don't want the beans out of the bag control your emotions, be the bigger adult, and walk away.

 

[Jessica]

He does...but I think he secretly means it