my guy FRIEND called last night crying his eyes out saying that last weekend he had a one night stand with this girl [therefore cheating on his gf] and is scared to tell his gf [which he eventually did]. When he told me that my views of him COMPLETELY changed...It truly did! When he told me that I was like "oh so you're in that category now". I'm still his friend but it's different now, I don't feel that connected with him because of the choice that he made. I just view him as any ex bf who's ever cheated on me even though we're only friends... you know?
And it's funny because when a bf tells me that he cheated on me, it's the same thing: my view of him totally changed!! I no longer see him as my friend and protector but instead I see him as an enemy, as the one who'll hurt me...do you understand what I mean???
First and foremost: I HAVE NEVER PUT ANY MEN [PERSON for that matter] ON A PEDESTAL. The saying that everyone is human for me is plainly obvious [ if you were a god, you wouldn't be on earth and if you were an animal I wouldn't be able to speak to you]. So please the whole "i'm a human card" expired a while for me.
So my question is how do you view someone who has cheated? whether a friend or a bf/gf of yours? Thank you!
whether a husband or wife also...
Nina: that's it!!! that's what I was looking for respect! I lost respect for him!!!
Huckebee: you know what ticks me off? when others talk about those who see cheating as bad, as a lack of maturity on their part... "When you're more mature"...my thinking about that is shouldn't the cheater have been more mature and though things through? someone here said it cheating is not a "it jsut happened" thing...if are married, my assumption is that you are a mature person...But of course assumptions are not always factual.
Mama: "you can just learn something from this as a tool that not everyone is perfect"...hummm did he have to cheat to show that he was not perfect....Believe you me, I KNOW that he isn't perfect, so did his gf..He didn't have to cheat to prove that.
And it's funny because when a bf tells me that he cheated on me, it's the same thing: my view of him totally changed!! I no longer see him as my friend and protector but instead I see him as an enemy, as the one who'll hurt me...do you understand what I mean???
First and foremost: I HAVE NEVER PUT ANY MEN [PERSON for that matter] ON A PEDESTAL. The saying that everyone is human for me is plainly obvious [ if you were a god, you wouldn't be on earth and if you were an animal I wouldn't be able to speak to you]. So please the whole "i'm a human card" expired a while for me.
So my question is how do you view someone who has cheated? whether a friend or a bf/gf of yours? Thank you!
whether a husband or wife also...
Nina: that's it!!! that's what I was looking for respect! I lost respect for him!!!
Huckebee: you know what ticks me off? when others talk about those who see cheating as bad, as a lack of maturity on their part... "When you're more mature"...my thinking about that is shouldn't the cheater have been more mature and though things through? someone here said it cheating is not a "it jsut happened" thing...if are married, my assumption is that you are a mature person...But of course assumptions are not always factual.
Mama: "you can just learn something from this as a tool that not everyone is perfect"...hummm did he have to cheat to show that he was not perfect....Believe you me, I KNOW that he isn't perfect, so did his gf..He didn't have to cheat to prove that.