Does the bride almost spend more time bonding with the bridesmaids in the

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wedding process than with the groom? If guys got more involved, wouldn't we all maybe get more out of it?
I have been amazed at the answers concerning how much bridesmaids are involved physically and emotionally at weddings!
Guys don't realize this!
We just show up for the big event with no understanding about the highs and lows of what it all took!
Its like we are 5 year olds showing up at a kids birthday party!
I feel kind of shallow and embarrassed
 
Well, that makes you daft, Don. My fiance has been thoroughly involved in the wedding and the planning.
 
I agree that they do spend more time bonding with the BMs (bridesmaids) than the groom.



Alert: Stereotype :Alert

Most women have been planning their wedding since they were little girls and know exactly what they want when it finally is happening. The other female BMs are more keen on this and will help the bride to realize her dreams. Men don't really have the desire to care about the details the way women do so it doesn't seem like a groom being involved in as much depth as the bridesmaids, would make sense.



Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but that is my view on things. Even though the wishes of the groom can be met (for example, having a certain type of band, certain food, etc.) I don't think the typical man is going to go through all the details of when it should happen, where it should go, how to decorate it, what colours should it be, etc. etc.

As my bf every so eloquently expressed to me, "Just tell me the time and place b/c most likely I will already be drunk" :P
 
Well, luckily for me, my fiancee is VERY well involved in our wedding :) And not because I make him either :P I do most of the planning and run everything by him for an approval. My bridesmaids are not involved as much as most other bridal parties, but I don't want them to be... My wedding doesn't revolve around THEIR lives... So, why should I make it? :) I

The day is about my groom and me... About "us"... :) So, of course he wants to be involved in everything :) It's actually taken a lot of stress off of me :)
 
All my groom to be cares about is if the food is good, the cake has strawberries, and he doesn't have to wear pink!
 
Repeat after me:

A wedding has nothing to do with the man.
A wedding has nothing to do with the man.
A wedding has nothing to do with the man.
A wedding has nothing to do with the man.
A wedding has nothing to do with the man.
A wedding has nothing to do with the man.
 
Lol - that's amazingly true, a lot of the time.

I think that if men knew how much weddings mean to some women, they'd be more involved.

We're planning a very simple wedding ceremony, and he's been right there with me every step of the way - it's been great.
 
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