Does my Ex Girlfriend like my friend or is she trying to fish out information? -

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sorry if the story is long? Now ill make a long story short. I was with my ex for two years. we were engaged and actually had a great friendship of a year and a half before we started dating.everything was great. but her parents ended up moving away and she was left alone. i always took care of her and made sure she was happy found her a place but never wanted to live with me becasue it was against her family morals . I'll be honest she is very attractive and is very flirty and rude at times but she has a good heart. Things got out of hand one night as she had pulled out an attitude and i decided to stand up for my self. the next day she dumped me claming that i had hurt her too much for putting her in her place. im devestated.....
This is the dilema. I befriend this guy who was cool as hell he always seemed to be a great friend we hung out and we recorded music together watched games together. he had things going for him and his own place. We became such good friends that he invited me and my fiance for dinner. As they met she was talking about car problems and my friend began suggesting to check out her car. they exchanged numbers i mean hey shes my fiance and hes a great friend i have trust. welll eventually they talked on facebook and added eachother on messenger and he began liking or at least claiming that he liked her gf from pics that he saw on her profile.. well set up double dates but nothing really ever occured. i went out of town one week and she with her gf ( the one he claimed he liked) and they went over to his place. she called me asking me if it was ok as my friend suggested to ask me first before coming over. i said that i had no problem and i appreciated for putting me in consideration. well they went over but things began to get weird 3 days later. while i was out of town she began accusing me of playing her. it made no sense.
during the first week that we broke up. my freind told me that she kept calling him asking for advice our relationship . to make matters worse he had bought a new boat and she was trying to set up a day with him to go on the boat with just herself. well i was thankful he told me but i was confused. i grew parinod trying not to think the worst. he then told me that she would tell him that i was a bad guy and that abused her. my freind told me that he didnt believe it. then one day she exploded and told him that she just wanted to get information out of him because she thought i played her while i was out of town which was not true...as i reattempted to fix things with her she rejected me. she took pictures with other guy friends hugging and showing her single life and i just cut her off.
this guy freind has been comforting me and helping me out with this break up . but at the same time i grew this concern and i told her to not talk to him as he is my friend and she agreed. 1 week passes bye and one night i am over at his place and she sends him a message over messenger asking a random question about a ipod cable. alot of my other freinds are telling me that she likes him or has a thing with him. ive been trying to pin things on him and testing him i cant get anything out of him as he seems relaxed. other freinds tell me that she is trying to get information off him... P.S while i attempted to fix things with her she asked me if i trusted my friend.... its such a weird weird question to ask me .. i need to figure this out because if so id feel betrayed and id also cut him off if he was the reason why she left me but yet hes been there for me during this hard break up.. please help.. i dont want to accuse and burn some off just because i got too parinod. she does go out with her gf's to clubs with other guys. but my concern is if this guy real or betrayed me. he also changed his profile picture while they chatted infront of me.... are these signs ?
 
your friend seems chills. dont pay to much attention to the chick. listen to your buddy and see what he says because it sounds like he has his life pretty well figured out
 
I'm very sorry to say this, but in my opinion, it seems that she is asking you if you "played" her because in the truth that's what -she- did. You sound, from reading her description and word choices, that you still like her and frankly love her, but from the information you provided it seems that what happened was that -her- heart was growing and going other places. Her contacting your friend for useless helps and so on just lets you know that she just wants attention from other men, and frankly she sounds like she is toying with your heart because she knows that you still like her.

About the chat, I know with my paranoid mind, it's not going to help you what I'm about to say, but did he seem to know exactly what to tell her when she asked for the cable? or did the conversation (chat) take longer (like a random answer to each other, like a normal conversation for help will go) or did it end pretty frankly as in he replies something then she just states a generic answer. If it was over less than a normal conversation will go, it could be considered coded to see if they can meet/etc. just in case you were there. But this would mean that they still care for you, and don't want to start a drama.

To be completely honest, I believe she is completely worthless. I say this because if you're going to commit to someone you don't just break up or dump someone by one argument. Arguments and fights are worked out and that what love is all about. Do you not agree?

He sounds like a good friend, but at the same time a little too friendly to everyone. If she dumped you for stupid reasons he should cut off contact with her too, no matter how his image seems, that's what true friends do, don't you think?

Just let go of people with problems like this, she was not worth your time, and you should be able to see that by now, and he is a little too friendly to completely trust fully. (If you understand what I mean) People have walls and morale values that they stick to, he doesn't sound like the type I would want to tell all my secrets too, since he seems to care about how others perceive him rather than concentrating on how one real friend feels.

I hope this helped in someway, perhaps by looking at it in another light. I hope everything goes well, and good luck.
 
I'm very sorry to say this, but in my opinion, it seems that she is asking you if you "played" her because in the truth that's what -she- did. You sound, from reading her description and word choices, that you still like her and frankly love her, but from the information you provided it seems that what happened was that -her- heart was growing and going other places. Her contacting your friend for useless helps and so on just lets you know that she just wants attention from other men, and frankly she sounds like she is toying with your heart because she knows that you still like her.

About the chat, I know with my paranoid mind, it's not going to help you what I'm about to say, but did he seem to know exactly what to tell her when she asked for the cable? or did the conversation (chat) take longer (like a random answer to each other, like a normal conversation for help will go) or did it end pretty frankly as in he replies something then she just states a generic answer. If it was over less than a normal conversation will go, it could be considered coded to see if they can meet/etc. just in case you were there. But this would mean that they still care for you, and don't want to start a drama.

To be completely honest, I believe she is completely worthless. I say this because if you're going to commit to someone you don't just break up or dump someone by one argument. Arguments and fights are worked out and that what love is all about. Do you not agree?

He sounds like a good friend, but at the same time a little too friendly to everyone. If she dumped you for stupid reasons he should cut off contact with her too, no matter how his image seems, that's what true friends do, don't you think?

Just let go of people with problems like this, she was not worth your time, and you should be able to see that by now, and he is a little too friendly to completely trust fully. (If you understand what I mean) People have walls and morale values that they stick to, he doesn't sound like the type I would want to tell all my secrets too, since he seems to care about how others perceive him rather than concentrating on how one real friend feels.

I hope this helped in someway, perhaps by looking at it in another light. I hope everything goes well, and good luck.
 
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