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sui_generis
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I've been going out with this guy for almost 3 months.
We get on brilliantly; the only thing that bothers me is despite the fact that we get on so well we keeping coming back to the issue of sex. I made it clear from the start of our relationship that I wanted to wait until I was ready before having sex (We are both still virgins by the way, though we are physically intimate)and he said that he thought that was really sweet and said he kind of felt the same way. He also seems really 'in' to me, he always wants to spend time everyday with me, as I do with him and tells me I'm beautiful etc all the time and says he misses me like mad when I'm not around. However now I'm in the situation with him that sometimes he's this really loving sweet guy who tells me that he thinks he's falling in love with me and can see himself with me in 10 years time while other times he turns into this guy who just wants sex even though he said it didn't matter that much to him. He jokingly brings up sex all the time but in a kind of way that is serious deep down. It upsets me, as I feel like he's pressurising me. I've said this to him and he apologised and since he has not brought it up so often. He says it's because I frustrate him so much sexually and he always thinks about it when I'm with him! He also says that he kinda feels that he's missing out but that he won't leave me because of it because he really cares about and thinks I'm a lovely person, but I'm really worried as this seems to be such a major issue already. Does he really love me or is he just saying that to try and get me into bed or is it just pure lust on his part? I don't want to lose him either, as I genuinely think I'm falling in love with him but I know if I sleep with him at this point it'll only be to please him though part of me does want to sleep with him but the other part is scared? I don't know what to do...
We get on brilliantly; the only thing that bothers me is despite the fact that we get on so well we keeping coming back to the issue of sex. I made it clear from the start of our relationship that I wanted to wait until I was ready before having sex (We are both still virgins by the way, though we are physically intimate)and he said that he thought that was really sweet and said he kind of felt the same way. He also seems really 'in' to me, he always wants to spend time everyday with me, as I do with him and tells me I'm beautiful etc all the time and says he misses me like mad when I'm not around. However now I'm in the situation with him that sometimes he's this really loving sweet guy who tells me that he thinks he's falling in love with me and can see himself with me in 10 years time while other times he turns into this guy who just wants sex even though he said it didn't matter that much to him. He jokingly brings up sex all the time but in a kind of way that is serious deep down. It upsets me, as I feel like he's pressurising me. I've said this to him and he apologised and since he has not brought it up so often. He says it's because I frustrate him so much sexually and he always thinks about it when I'm with him! He also says that he kinda feels that he's missing out but that he won't leave me because of it because he really cares about and thinks I'm a lovely person, but I'm really worried as this seems to be such a major issue already. Does he really love me or is he just saying that to try and get me into bed or is it just pure lust on his part? I don't want to lose him either, as I genuinely think I'm falling in love with him but I know if I sleep with him at this point it'll only be to please him though part of me does want to sleep with him but the other part is scared? I don't know what to do...