Does being fruitful and multiplying justify adultery even if the baby's conception was..

[No Other Love Can Measure]

...strictly business? It's complicated. I'm a 43 year old six-figure salary career man. I've had countless girlfriends that didn't last. As a result, I didn't marry or have children. However, God answered my prayers in 2005, I met the woman of my dreams. Her name is Diane. She's a beautiful, amazing successful lawyer 12 years my senior. She has a 24 year old daughter named Kirsten; sadly, Kirsten's father died of leukemia 15 years ago. Last year in March 2008, Diane and I got married. I'm happy and I love this woman more than life itself. However, I always wanted children but I never had the chance. Diane always wanted MORE children but she was only blessed with Kirsten. Diane is in her fifties and she's post-menopausal; so impregnating her was out of the question. We considered adoption but we decided that we somehow want a child that has both our blood in him/her. Kirsten is Diane's best friend in addition to being her daughter, so she agreed to postpone med school to be a surrogate mother for us. Diane made it clear that it will only happen via artificial insemination...no exceptions. Kirsten will give up her parental rights and just be the big sister. So, Kirsten and I tried artificial insemination four times, but she didn't get pregnant. I desperately wanted a child. So, as a last resort, I asked Kirsten to try it the "natural way". She was very hesitant but it took a LOT of persuasion on my part until she finally agreed. So, we secretly had sex and now she's 2 months pregnant. The baby is due in April and Diane is extremely excited and full of joy. But she has no clue how it really happened. Part of me feels guilty; part of me doesn't. Kirsten is CLEARLY feeling guilty though. She and I feel so awkward around each other. We don't have feelings for each other or anything. This was strictly business. Do you think we were wrong although our intentions were sincere? God knows I love my wife so much and I feel terrible for keeping it a secret from her. Should I take it to the grave with me? I don't want this to ruin our marriage and I certainly don't want to break that strong bond between Diane and Kirsten. What should I do?

 

[Dekay]

Your situation is truly deep. Keep in mind you keep saying you love your wife dearly. Now reason for a second and put yourself in your wife's shoes, and she had did this terrible thing between you and your son! How would you deal with that situation, would you believe she truly loves you. I believe you would be devastated, like most men.

I am not any ones judge or lawgiver we all have to give an accounting to God for our actions. However I feel you were having more love for yourself than your wife. Why I say that is because the bible tells us what Love is not! It seems you have taken her loving kindness for granted about the whole situation. The fact that she has even involved her own flesh and blood says a lot about her. Then for you to turn around and commit adultery with her daughter and best friend says a lot about you too. You said your motives were pure and it meant nothing, strictly business.

Let say you were driving on a narrow road and a beautiful adorable little rabbit jumps out and darts in front of the car. You try to maneuver so as not to hit the rabbit, but somehow you still ended up running over the rabbit and killing it. Does it matter you were not trying to kill the rabbit (motives) the truth of the matter is in reality the Rabbit STILL DEAD! Let me tell you, you may have all ready killed your wife with this situation, don't make it worst by lying. Everything done in the dark always come to the light. If you're man enough to do crime be man enough to do the time.

(1 Corinthians 13:4-7) 4Â*Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5Â*does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6Â*It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7Â*It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

The Golden rule definitely applies to this situation. Fess up!