Does a girlfriend have the right to look in her boyfriend's mobile phone?

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My boyfriend has always been very protective over his mobile phones and I have never been able to look into any of them. We have been together for 1 year and 3 months.
He has had previous relationships where his girlfriends have been paranoid and looking in his phone all the time... and the relationships didn't work.

But I have a strong curiosity what goes on with his mobile phone, even though he reassures me theres nothing weird in there, and I feel like I am invading into his personal business by asking... but I am his girlfriend.

What do you think?
 
People aren't hiding things when they don't want you to look in their phones.

It's about privacy, trust, and respect.

Privacy - You don't control everything in his life, he wants to keep some things separate.
Trust - You believe him that he hasn't cheated on you. If he's at all smart he wouldn't keep evidence in his phone anyway.
Respect - You respect his own rights to privacy rather than your "rights to snoop."

I hate when girls poke through guys phones, just hoping to find something "juicy" to fight about. I don't do it to my boyfriend, and he doesn't do it to me. I don't think he's cheating on me and I'm not going to break his trust and invade his privacy just for some peace of mind.
 
Let me put it this way. The only right you have at all to look at his phone is if he has cheated. If he has then you have an arguement, your trust has been broken, and he needs to help you repair it.

If he has done NOTHING to deserve you looking in his phone then, no you have no right. If you cant trust someone, then you shouldnt be with them. Trust is the core of a relationship, more so than love. You can have love but without trust it will waiver and die.

You need to sort out the feelings you have and if you cant start trusting that he loves you, and isnt cheating, or something. Then you need to break up. It is not fair to him.
 
you can actually but only if you have permission. just surprise him at a time then ask if you could look at his fone and if he says no then just say you want to be sure that he hides no secrets and if he wants your trust then he should let you do it. i have friends who are in relationship with each other and they dont care about browsing or reading one anothers messages because they know they have nothing to hide.
 
trust me I'm a guy he's hiding something.. doesn't have to be other girls or cheating but he for sure hiding something. If he can't show you his cell phone then....... you should start to look for someone that isn't going to be so uptight. Think about it if he's that uptight about his cell phone what else will he be uptight about? where do you draw the line. I say you tell him either you let me see it untouched right now or leave. simple as that.
 
Well I can tell you from the other way, my ex used to constantly, I mean three times a night go through my phone. When I saw him one of the first things he would do sometimes is take my phone and go through the texts, even asked for my voicemail to listen to my messages there too. I felt invaded, but not the phone itself as I had nothing to hide really, just the fact that he didn't trust me so much. Try looking at other things that may show he is cheating, it might be that he is seemingly so protective over the phones that is bothering you, tell him that and see his reaction just don't be overbearing. I felt like a little kid the way my ex did it and it did lead to unhappiness in the relationship, but there is a way that it can be done that is not so harsh. Good wishes, and try not to be guessing the wrong thing about him, have trust but be aware at the same time. :)
 
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