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Skyliner
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Here's the deal: I'm 23 and recently shared with my mom that I had gotten a verbal offer for a company that is out-of-state. Within 48 hours she had told God knows how many people that I was for sure moving to State X (I had a few call and ask me how I felt about it).
This is bad for several reasons:
- I had not yet accepted the offer (or even received a written one)
- The position's start date is not for 5 months
- My mom works in an office that one of my colleagues regularly calls on . . . I do NOT want word getting around or I might get fired (and no, this is not a situation in which I can notify my current company . . . if they so much as sniff that you're searching, it's hasta la vista)
- Addendum to the above: I'd like to keep my paycheck and health insurance as long as I can, and my mom won't pay COBRA if I get fired because of something she said.
First I asked her to please not say anything to anyone for the aforementioned reasons. She agreed and said she understood, but I know my mom: she thinks everyone is nice and good, and does not understand that people in the business world will screw you over just for the hell of it. She will tell "just one good friend" and maybe just another good friend, and maybe one of the girls in the office that she trusts . . . it's happened too many times before.
So I stretched the truth a little and said that the company's offer was "awful" and that I would have to keep looking.
Although I want to keep the relationship with my parents open and let them know what's going on in my life (especially with such a big life move), I also do not want to jeopardize my current job. I am planning on telling my parents after the Xmas holidays, as my mom's Christmas letters tend to be TOO newsy (eg: last year she said that I was not enjoying my first job out of college in the paragraph that she wrote about me)
If they ask any further, I am planning to say that I am renegotiating salary, and that I don't want to say anything so that they can honestly answer "we don't know" if people ask what I am doing with my job.
Good plan, bad plan . . . what are your thoughts?
This is bad for several reasons:
- I had not yet accepted the offer (or even received a written one)
- The position's start date is not for 5 months
- My mom works in an office that one of my colleagues regularly calls on . . . I do NOT want word getting around or I might get fired (and no, this is not a situation in which I can notify my current company . . . if they so much as sniff that you're searching, it's hasta la vista)
- Addendum to the above: I'd like to keep my paycheck and health insurance as long as I can, and my mom won't pay COBRA if I get fired because of something she said.
First I asked her to please not say anything to anyone for the aforementioned reasons. She agreed and said she understood, but I know my mom: she thinks everyone is nice and good, and does not understand that people in the business world will screw you over just for the hell of it. She will tell "just one good friend" and maybe just another good friend, and maybe one of the girls in the office that she trusts . . . it's happened too many times before.
So I stretched the truth a little and said that the company's offer was "awful" and that I would have to keep looking.
Although I want to keep the relationship with my parents open and let them know what's going on in my life (especially with such a big life move), I also do not want to jeopardize my current job. I am planning on telling my parents after the Xmas holidays, as my mom's Christmas letters tend to be TOO newsy (eg: last year she said that I was not enjoying my first job out of college in the paragraph that she wrote about me)
If they ask any further, I am planning to say that I am renegotiating salary, and that I don't want to say anything so that they can honestly answer "we don't know" if people ask what I am doing with my job.
Good plan, bad plan . . . what are your thoughts?