he had sent me flowers for valentines day and seemed genuinly interested in me and was very attentive. he tried to kiss me on our first date and i pulled away. he asked me why i got so jumpy when he touched me and i confided in him and told him i had been sexually abused from 11 to 18. i am now 22. he said he really just wanted to hold me and for me to see what a good guy was like. i really started to fall for him. i hadnt slept with anyone in 2 yrs and he seemed really sweet and kind and i wanted to be close to him. so we did and he was patient and nice about it.
a few days later we got into an argument because he had really offended me and i got angry. since then he totally tuned me out and cut me off completely. stopped all contact. i texted him and he said that he just needed some time but that i could email him. i emailed him and let him know that i had feelings for him. he didnt respond so i called a couple of days later. he told me he read the email several times. he also said we may be friends in the future but that i needed to move on and not wait for him.
a week later he texted me and said good luck on my exam the next day. then he asked me the next day how my test went. then immediatly shut down and acted cold again. i got fed up and got a date with someone who seemed genuine. i texted him to say i had a date and that i was nervous. he responded and said "why would you tell me that?" then he made fun of me. i invited him to come to boston with me to hang out at this cool place thats outdoors and he said maybe. the next day i asked him if he wanted to see this movie that came out on video that hed been waiting to see and he responded "no thanks"
he said he wanted to be friends so i was trying to be genuine and make an effort yet he completely shut me down.
whats the deal??
a few days later we got into an argument because he had really offended me and i got angry. since then he totally tuned me out and cut me off completely. stopped all contact. i texted him and he said that he just needed some time but that i could email him. i emailed him and let him know that i had feelings for him. he didnt respond so i called a couple of days later. he told me he read the email several times. he also said we may be friends in the future but that i needed to move on and not wait for him.
a week later he texted me and said good luck on my exam the next day. then he asked me the next day how my test went. then immediatly shut down and acted cold again. i got fed up and got a date with someone who seemed genuine. i texted him to say i had a date and that i was nervous. he responded and said "why would you tell me that?" then he made fun of me. i invited him to come to boston with me to hang out at this cool place thats outdoors and he said maybe. the next day i asked him if he wanted to see this movie that came out on video that hed been waiting to see and he responded "no thanks"
he said he wanted to be friends so i was trying to be genuine and make an effort yet he completely shut me down.
whats the deal??