Do you think one must present themselves as 'flawless', 'perfect' to be

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loved by opposite sex? I mean to say without weakness in any form; insecurity, shyness, depression etc? Don't people want to fall in love with seemingly ideal human beings that present themselves as effortlessly attractive, charming, clever, interesting, who seems impenetrable and bulletproof? Do people tend to place less value on those who experience anxiety or depression just by instinct? You could have two beautiful women of equal merit, attractiveness, intelligence but one woman is hardier, more resilient, always 'on' and always 'up' and the other woman is more honest about her vulnerabilities, insecurities, worries and don't you think the former woman is the type that is idealised by men as 'perfect'? And the latter in her humble humanity with all its errs rings a bit too closely to home, to the quotidian and mundanity of everyday life? In love, we wish to be transported to some place higher and if a woman is broken and flawed it brings us right back down to the mundanities? Do men place these women of higher worth in their heads? Similarly with men, aren't women inclined to value the 'ideal' inpenetrable man of charm, looks, intelligence who always presents abundant confidence and control over the man who has things going for him but who is honest about weaknesses and insecurities?