Do you think my husband should go hang out with friends without discussing it with...

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Jello

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...his wife? My husband friend Joe wanted to know if my husband wanted to hang out his apartment or hang out at the pool and drink beer with some other guys there. My husband told his friend Joe that he needed to ask his wife and see if that’s ok. Joe said if that was my wife I would go crazy. My husband friend Joe said that I don’t ask my wife where I can go, I just go and do what I want when I want. Do you think my husband should just go and do what he pleases without telling me? Sometimes, I might tell my husband I don’t think it’s a good idea for him to go out and spend any money because we are trying to save money for our baby. I think my husband should discuss it with me before he goes out and that let’s me know where he’s going to be. I also tell my husband that I don’t want him to go out because he went last week. I don’t think my husband should be going out every week. What do you think?
 
i don't think he should have to ask you to go out.
he's an adult and he should be able to come and go as he pleases.
however, since you two live together, it's important that he tells you where he is. which is different than asking. that way you aren't worried when he isn't home at his usual time.

since you guys are saving money, perhaps you can agree on a spending budget for the both of you.
for example, maybe you can have $50 / week each for spending. so if he decides to go out this week and blows $100, then he can't go out next week because he blew his budget for 2 weeks. i think that's better than you treating him like a child and telling him what he can and can not do.

and i think the budget is probably the best way to do it.
 
Well, Mommy, maybe you can give him an allowance to spend and tell him to be home before the street lights come on.

Do you want to be his partner or his parent? Hint: One he sleeps with, one he doesn't (I hope).
 
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