do you think it is wrong to try the 3rd attemp to get my 4year to go to camp. the

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surroundings are fimilair? and one of the boys is in her group that she has been Friends with since they were born she is also familiar with the staff. she has attended pre k soccer playgroup etc AT THE SAME LOCATION SINCE SHE IS 18 MONTHS OLD without me there but lately she wont leave my sight and doesn't seem to wanna go by friends unless I AM there this just started happening she was never like this before when I ask she'll say "I don't know" everyone says I should just leave her that she will stop crying perhaps but before she would practically kick me out the door . there is NO CHILD ABUSE INVOLVED,I KNOW THAT FOR A FACT. I'M WORRIED WHAT SHOULD I DO TRY AGAIN OR LET IT GO.


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Walk her in, say goodbye and walk out the door. If you let her pine for you like this now, what will she do in kindergarten a year from now?
 
Walk her in, say goodbye and walk out the door. If you let her pine for you like this now, what will she do in kindergarten a year from now?
 
I would get her checked out by your pediatrician. Make sure there are absolutely no signs of abuse or any other illnesses that may cause her to feel vulnerable. Talk to others who were around her when you weren't there. Do some "investigating." Perhaps she was a victim of bullying, etc. If you can't find anthing then I would just let it go. This could be a phase. If she wants you nearby it's ok for a while. Believe me, there will be plenty of times later on when she won't want you around at all. Enjoy the time together. Hope that helps.
 
if you don't have the sac to go through with forcing the child to go, then don't try it again. I think from the sound of it that it could be good for both of you, though.

when a child responds "i don't know" often like that, it is because they are responding to percieved pressure from the asker as to what they should say in response.

I think it might be that she is making such a big deal out of this because she thinks that YOU think that it IS a big deal.
 
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