Do you judge parents by the appearance of their children?

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madi

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Please, answer honestly. Why / why not?
I'm not talking about kids who look and probably are neglected by their parents. Strictly speaking, if you seen a 10 year old goth or a kid dressed in heavy sweats tying to look gangster while their on the beach in CA during summer, would you judge the parents?
 
depends, if they look like typical children, dirty faces and all then no, if I see a little girl dressed like a slut, yes. I think parents are pushing their children to grow up too fast too soon, so when I see a little girl dressed in a tube top, mini skirt and platforms I judge, parents who let their kids look like that are asking to be young grandparents.
 
sometimes. if the kid consistently wears dirty clothes and looks dirty, i assume the parents don't care that much for the child.

and on the other side of it if a child is dressed in clothing to mature for the age (in my opinion) i assume that the parents are to busy or preoccupied to say "no, you can't wear that" and let the child do whatever because they feel guilty.

edit -
if i saw a 10 yr old goth or a gangster wannabe i don't know if i would judge the parents - but i would wonder if they were meeting the child's mental health needs. i wouldn't want my child to emmulate some rap singer. yuck.
 
Sometimes. If the child always has food on their face, dirty clothes and a runny nose I sometimes assume (although I shouldn't) that the child isn't looked after as well.
 
Yes. If their child is always dirty, wears the same clothes over and over again and always looks upset then heck yes I judge the parents as bad parents. If they're child always looks clean and happy and does well in school and what not then I judge the parents to be good parents.

I'll admit I also judge parents by their kids behavior - if an 8 year old is cursing up a storm - bad parents.
 
Depends on the child's age. If a young child is out with dirty, ripped clothes, dried up peanut butter around their mouths etc, then yes I would - and I wouldn't think too much of the parents either. Older children tend to look that way at their own discretion, which cannot really be reflected against the parents.

With regards to your edit, I believe the second part of my initial response covers that. The appearance of a child at the age of which they can clean, bathe and dress themselves, is entirely reflected against that child. IMO.
 
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