Do you judge disabled people? Be honest?

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So, I have cerebral palsy on the right side of my body mildly. It makes it tough to do basic things like walk or use stairs, or basically anything with balance.

Well, I never complain about my disability. I have a lot of pride, and I don't really like to show weakness. Every now and then I take a bad fall, due to not being able to catch myself properly.

Today I fell down in the middle of the road on my college campus, badly scraping both knees, with a ton of people seeing this. usually people run to help, or ask if I'm okay if they walk by, but today it just felt extra humiliating. The physical pain was bad, sure, but I never really cry, I'm used to it.

I just feel like, even though I know the moral high ground is not to judge others, especially people like me, but I always can't help thinking they think I'm a weak, stupid, retarded helpless person.

In general, are people usually thinking that way when they see a disabled person? Or is it just my imagination?
 
I have MS and I have often wondered that too, but, here is the thing, I have found if people see you fall, it hurts them too, they feel like they really have no control in a situation like that and if they could they would change things for you, for us, so, every one reacts differently, some are going to rush to help, others are going to be embarrassed for you, others may laugh, but overall, they feel your pain too and discomfort too, years ago, might have been a little different, but , today people are bright, they are educated, they realize you can't help it and did not ask for the circumstance you are in, hold your head high, through all the trials and tribulations, you are brave to get out and do what you want to even with some handicaps, good on you, most people would take their hats off to you in a minute. Keep going down that yellow brick road, you are doing great and don't worry what others think, 99% of it is positive and who cares about the other? Koo dos to you!
 
A lot of people are so rude to a person that is disabled and to be really quite honest, it really pisses me off.
If I would have been there today when you had fallen, I would have went over there and tried to help pick you up or your things up, but you are right and it is not your imagination, people are just cruel and rude. Sorry you had to experience that today and any other day.

Hope your feeling better.
 
I think you're imagining a lot of this...there are some cretins out there who have zero compassion and empathy, but I think there are many more of us out here (like myself) who sympathize and will offer assistance...without judgment. Don't be so hard on yourself. You're making your own way in this world...disability and all...that's something to be very proud of.
 
personally i don't think anyone disabled is at all weak, stupid or retarded. i mostly feel bad for them and look for any way to help them out. my best friend's boyfriend is disabled and has to walk with crutches and man he's one of the coolest people i have ever met!
 
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