Do you have someone who calls you just to rant about their life for 2 hrs?

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A certain family member calls me and just rambles on about their life for like 2 hrs per phone call (and really has no interest in my life).

They are offended I don't call them but 1) I HATE talking on the phone to anyone and 2) I have 2 young children and when they nap or sleep I just want to relax and not be on the phone.

Do I just have to suck it up and call this person every so often and let them ramble so they aren't offended that I never call?
She gets mad at me because I never call but it's like torture! I love her but I can't take these calls!
<3: That's the thing I feel like I am their psychiatrist or something and it's very draining....
 
me and my friends rant back and forth. i like listening to their problems and trying to help but thats just me...

i see how it could get annoying really fast. just explain to them that your just to busy to call all the time. or call talk for 15 minuets then make and excuse why you have to go.
 
I understand you.
Well it really depends on teh situation, talking with her/him may get really bad results but also not talking has bad results...
GL
 
I take those calls as often as I ignore them. My rule of thumb? I give them roughly one month of moaning about life, and then I tell them I will try to be supportive, but I don't want to hear anymore until they make an attempt to change their situation. Harsh, yes, but it's worked for me (most of the time). If they're not complaining? Just put the phone down for a minute or two at a time. When they don't hear a response maybe they'll think you're getting bored.
 
You can take the passive-aggressive route and just don't say a word whenever she complains about her life. Don't even say "mm hmm" or anything. Just be perfectly silent. If she says, "are you still there?" You can say "yes." If she says, "So what do you think about this?" You can say, "I don't know, what do YOU think?" And let her ramble on. She'll either get bored or embarressed when she finally realizes that you aren't interested in helping her solve her issues.
 
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