do you have a clear boundary of what you wont say when your arguing with your

I don't know where the actual proverbial line is, but what I won't say is the following:

"You always"
"You never"
"You started it"
and the lovely,
"You're the one who _____."
 
Before speaking, I think:

"When I married this woman, I promised to love and respect her. Does what I would like to say fall into those categories of 'love' and/or 'respect'?"


This has stopped me numerous times from saying something I would wish I could take back.
 
I just don't argue. I suck at arguing, especially with women. You know when the cops read someone his rights and they say, "Anything you say can and will be used against you"? Every time I used to get in an argument everything I said got twisted and thrown back at me. Plus it's usually my fault.
 
Anything that permanently and seriously denigrates the dignity of the significant other. The sort of thing that's a permanent insult or besmirchment, where you are sorry you said it almost before it's fully out of your mouth, no lover would say it, it can't be taken back, it's not part of the present fracas so time won't wash it away, it's one's position on some aspect of the other that is unchangeable or highly unlikely to change, it may as well be a service of process in a divorce.

I've done it. I told my girl that she was badly educated and pig-ignorant about science. She, of course was Magna Cum Laude from Sarah Lawrence. She did forgive me, but it took a long time.

Keep the unkind cuts to remarks about the current fracas -- that all gets washed away with time. Fight over, insults gone. Anything that is purely personal and not changeable is ultra hazardous to say (unless you want a divorce).
 
I wouldn't cuss him out in French or German, but that's because I don't know how.
 
do not mention anything about his manhood. no matter how big or small *dare i say*
thats worse than saying i hate you..
something that can completely ruin a relationship.
even if a guy cheated onme, i would NEVER be like whatever cause you have a small **** anyways.
or you suck in bed. anything of that nature is always a big no-no
 
do not mention anything about his manhood. no matter how big or small *dare i say*
thats worse than saying i hate you..
something that can completely ruin a relationship.
even if a guy cheated onme, i would NEVER be like whatever cause you have a small **** anyways.
or you suck in bed. anything of that nature is always a big no-no
 
Of course, everyone should. If I call her a b*tch then I might as well have just shot myself. It's down to what is your own morals and what you think you should not say and what words you know the other person would either slap you, or leave and will end the relationship. Don't use those words and try and not go crazy or shout. Try and keep as calm as you can in an argument and then hopefully it will end well and you can have make up fun...
 
...sadly no - first words that come out is to hurt the other...so, i shut up! and walk out, jump in my truck and cruise...
 
...sadly no - first words that come out is to hurt the other...so, i shut up! and walk out, jump in my truck and cruise...
 
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