Do you hate when pregnant women complain?

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Emily

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It's like they are absolutely clueless about how many mothers have lost babies to miscarriage, stillbirth. 3 of my friends are pregnant right now and all they do is complain about how they are hot, or their backs hurt. It really hurts me because of what I've been through and it's like they don't even care.
No one forced them to get pregnant. They wanted a baby, they wanted to become a mother. And then the minute they got it, instead of appreciating how amazing this gift is, they are like "Ugh, I just want it out of me." or "I'm so sick of being pregnant, I'm so tired." I would literally sell my soul to be in their shoes...
 
It took me about six years to get pregnant with my daughter. A lot of my girlfriends got pregnant and either talked about it WAY to much or complained.
I chalked it up to them being really self-absorbed with their pregnancy. I also had a tendency to kind of stop talking to friends that were pregnant. Why would I want to put myself in a situation in which I was uncomfortable.
BTW, when I was pregnant I did not complain. Not even when I threw up for four months. Of course, I didn't really talk about the pregnancy with anyone.
 
Honey they do care and I'm sorry for your losses but pregnancy is very uncomfortable for many women and it's hard to not complain about all the aches and pains. I tried for a year with my son and had been waiting for the chance to try for an extra 2 years before that. I wanted him more than anything in the world. My pregnancy with him was a lot harder on my body than it had been with my daughter and I hurt all the time. It's hard when you are in pain or uncomfortable not to say something regardless of how happy you are with the pregnancy. I'm sorry that it gets on you. I understand where you are coming from but complaining about aches and pains has nothing to do with wanting the baby.

I wish you all the luck in the world.
 
yes it annoys me so much. i lost my baby boy in august 2009 due to stillbirth, and my fiances 2 aunts are pregnant. all you hear is that they are in pain, with sore feet, and want the baby out.

i would love to feel my baby move inside me again.
if i were them, i would cherish every moment with their child, whether that is inside the womb or born

xx
 
yes I know what u mean I been ttc for 14 months and my sister in law got pregnant on her 1st try when I found out she was pregnant I was so heart broken.
so when I saw her I was like wow u r pregnant and she was like yeah but I can't wait until is over I just look at her like u b.I.t.c.h lol
 
yes it annoys me so much. i lost my baby boy in august 2009 due to stillbirth, and my fiances 2 aunts are pregnant. all you hear is that they are in pain, with sore feet, and want the baby out.

i would love to feel my baby move inside me again.
if i were them, i would cherish every moment with their child, whether that is inside the womb or born

xx
 
I totally understand what you mean. It sucks that they are complaining to you since they know you've been trying so hard!

I just got another BFN and I'm SO depressed!

That being said, I know SO many women who ttc for so long and swore they would enjoy their pregnancy once they finally got it. Then they complained like everyone else! It's just the way it is...being pregnant can be extremely uncomfortable and most women are not used to all the pain and discomfort.

Well, GL, I hope you get preg w/a super healthy baby!!!
 
I can totally relate to your post. (my hubby and I are ttc for 4 months now...since the stillbirth.) I have lost my son to stillbirth at 37 weeks just four months ago. Many of my friends are pregnant with their 2nd or 3rd child, and complain like crazy. they even complain about the children that they DO have. One of my friends just had a baby 3 weeks ago, and all she does is complain about how the baby won't sleep or eat, or how she fusses. I just remind her that at least she has a LIVING baby! They totally don't understand the immense pain that a mother goes through when they've had to give birth to a dead baby. I just went and left my son flowers at the cemetery yesterday for Halloween, and I talked to my sis-in-law (prego with her 3rd baby that she didn't even want), and she was complaining to me about her two boys and how tired she is now that she's prego again. Give me a break!

I can certainly relate to your pain, and anyone who posts anything different than empathy and understanding for your loss just doesn't understand , and has never had to burry their dead infant.

Many baby blessings to you. God bless.
 
uhm no offence but its not your friends fault of the things that you have been through, im sure they dont mean to make you feel bad but what are they suppose to do totally put their life on hold because you feel like they dont care, it is hard being pregnant you DO get hot and your back DOES hurt. if it really bothers you that much than try asking them not to talk about their symptoms around you or stop hanging out with them
 
It seems like most pregnant women complain to everyone who will listen. If they have an ear, then they will repeatedly complain. I think its normal.

If your friends and the people close to you know what you have been through, then it is very insensitive for them to complain to your about their physical condition.

Having said that, pregnancy is not pleasant especially near the end. Perhaps they don't realize that they are offending or upsetting you.

Have you said that their complaining bothers you? If so, then you have done all you can do. If not, then they don't read minds. Perhaps you should let them know that you would rather be in their shoes than your own.
 
uhm no offence but its not your friends fault of the things that you have been through, im sure they dont mean to make you feel bad but what are they suppose to do totally put their life on hold because you feel like they dont care, it is hard being pregnant you DO get hot and your back DOES hurt. if it really bothers you that much than try asking them not to talk about their symptoms around you or stop hanging out with them
 
No. I don't hate it.
Just like I don't hate any of the women in TTC who are always asking "Could this mean I'm pregnant?" "How long did it take YOU to conceive?" "What do these results mean?"

Everyone complains.

And it's perfectly FINE to complain about something that hurts you. You're doing it right now, you're complaining about pregnant ladies, because you aren't one.
 
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