Do you find this offensive, disrespectful or sexist?

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OK I know this isn't as pressing as some of the other polls here, but please vote anyway. It's your opinion that counts.

The other day I was involved in a conversation about abortion and the guy that I was talking to made some comments that I found highly offensive, disrespectful and sexist toward women. His wife, whom is my friend, told me that the comments were not disrespectful, so now I'm a bit befuddled. The comments in question are listed below.

Do you find them offensive, disrespectful or sexist toward women?

Any comments about your decision would be a bit helpful. Thank you.
 
Going in reverse order.

Yes the woman does carry the can. She becomes pregnant and therefore she gives birth and by doing so should accept responsibility for the child. The father also has his responsibilities. The question of DNA testing can ascertain the father in case of argument.

Sterilising the woman in question is basically wrong. However it can be argued that if she were to go on giving birth and NOT accepting responsibility should she then be sterilised ? If on the other hand she continues to have abortions that is her choice. She has to live with it.

Responsibility is usually two-way. Howvere see my first comment and think practicality
 
I find the statements stupid, irresponsible, childish and self-centered.


This is true. Additionally the onus is on the boy if he doesn't want to impregnate the girl.

Should? Although there are many people who have no business having babies, we simply don't mandate sterilization.

Like #1, and like any adult, the man who also must carry the carry the can for life's situations.

The statements seem to imply that males bear no responsibility for the prevention of unwanted pregnancy.

If being impregnated or impregnating another is undesirable, it is up to all parties involved to prevent pregnancy to individually and jointly to do whatever it takes to prevent that (abstention or contraception). If I was a woman, I certainly would not have sex with an a$$hole who held those opinions.


So to answer the question I find the statements offensive by being so irresponsible. They are also pretty disrespectful toward sexual partners and sexist.

Mostly, anyone who would maintain that position is a stupid as a box of hair.
 
Statement #2 is deserving of gunshot wounRAB to the kneecaps.

Statement #1 and statement #3 might be possible to accept in the practical sense, even if it's not fair. If a male impregnates a female, the female is the one who faces the consequences in this sense: The male isn't necessarily left with the physical/mental/emotional fallout; he can just leave.
From this viewpoint, it makes more sense that the female will go to greater lengths to prevent unwanted pregnancy. You gamblers might want to liken this logic to implied odRAB; the actual responsibility doesn't change, but the lopsided results likely skew the actions that lead to the results.

(That said, in no way am I saying that a male in a case like this is justified in leaving, nor that the male is justified in being carefree about his sexual mate. If the person making these statements meant them this way, I'd consider them incredibly ignorant and likely sexist.)
 
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