Do you find that straight people are less mature about discussing sexual topics

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than gay people? I just posted a question about hetero sex in the Singles & Dating category, and most of them are either speechless or cracking jokes. Wow.

I think one of the good things about being gay is that we're forced to deal with it, and that usually means talking about it. Straight people are never forced to deal with their sexuality the way we do, so they end up less educated about sex, and embarrassed when they are asked to talk about it. Agree? Other opinions?
Tangy - you're so right too! I can't believe that schools don't teach comprehensive sex education. What a strange country we live in (the U.S.).
Freedom - good luck to you. I hope you can come out to her soon, but it has to feel right for you, of course.
Graham - keeping everything "private" does nothing to advance our understanding of human sexuality. It's that kind of attitude that leads to all of the ignorance and misunderstandings regarding sex. If you have a problem with gays, it's really your problem, not ours.
yngblkbeau - that was a fantastic answer. I think you may be right about the majority of straight people having boring sex lives. It's just another consequence of their discomfort in talking about sex., I guess.
Graham - yes there is such a thing as "understanding human sexuality". People go to graduate school to earn Masters degrees and Doctoral degrees in human sexuality. The fact that you're here answering questions in the Gay category shows that you're at least curious about it. I'm not suggesting you're gay at all; I'm just saying there's more to human sexuality than hetero missionary-position sex, and a lot of us find it interesting to discuss.
Graham - gays talk about sex because it's what brings us together! It's the main thing we have in common. Also, it's impossible to get equal rights if no one is talking about it. Studies have shown that the number one thing that makes a heterosexual accept gays is when they personally know a homosexual and like that individual. Maybe we're reaching a point in the U.S. where it's not such a big deal to be gay anymore; I hope that's the case.
 
well immature maybe but mostly they are pervs about it. There always has to be a sexual innuendo about something. Or they always have to make things sound perverted. That's what all straight guys do.

It just makes us gay's more mature and sophisticated.


They really don't listen. my mom is an educator about topics like rape and sexual abuse and she goes to the Navy and preaches to them all the time. They hardly listen to her. She will also go to schools and teach.

but even though she does teach this i still haven't the courage to come out to her yet
 
I think it is gay people that are immature about sex. Instead of keeping it in perspective as a personal experience usually shared privately between 2 people gay people make it their top priority and tend to ram it down everyones throats.

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We don't need 'an understanding of human sexuality'. First because there is no such thing. For every sexual act immaginable there is someone who likes it and someone who doesn't. Therefore sexuality boils down to what the each participant prefers as that comes naturally without gay people trying to raise a preference for anal sex to the level of a spiritual experience.

And I don't have a problem with gays. I just don't see why they need to make such a big public thing of their sexual preferances when hetrosexuals generally sort out their own particular preferances in private with their partners.
 
I think the majority are immature in this manner. I have always found talking about sex with a straight person has always been um...interesting. They think sex is taboo and joke about it. I think maybe ignorance. Not sure about gay people sorry.
A straight guy who has no problem discussing sex or sexual topics and I am an ally.
 
I don't think that 'immature' is the right descriptor. Straight relationships are dictated primarily by tradition and societal norms. They don't have to talk about sexual issues because for them it typically goes only one way. When it comes to matters of sex, the only really cool straight people are the non-traditional ones who are willing to experiment with different things in the bedroom---even if its only with each other. But even many of them aren't willing to talk about this stuff with others. It really depends on the individuals. However, to be fair, most straight sex is pretty boring. All that usually happens is that the guy gets on top in strict missionary style and goes for several minutes until climax (which is often faked by the female). Occasionally, there may be a little oral or a bit of foreplay but it usually isn't all that great because there's little imagination or creativity involved. Most straight women do not enjoy performing oral sex on their men, and this is an activity that most men love very much. And most straight women are not truly satisfied by intercourse but fake their orgasms just so the men will stop and leave them alone. Then, sooner or later, they have kids and the sexual activity declines both in quality and frequency.

A straight couple would have to be extremely in tune with one another to truly reach and stimulate each other's erogenous zones in a mind-blowing way. But its all moot because many straight couples will never admit that their sex lives suck. And they deal with it because the whole marriage and having kids thing somehow compensates. At least in their minds, it does. Until one of them gets bored enough to start cheating with somebody else.
 
i completely agree and if it is talked about at all its usually people joking around and saying which person can give them better bjs
 
I do feel straight people are way immature regarding anything sexual because they view it as a joke and a way to get off, pardon the language if you will, but they seem to think sex is just something to get and have no feeling what so ever about the person they are copulating with. LGBT people are more mature because we have to face facts on what we are and deal with it. Plus I have noticed LGBT people have more education regarding sex because, as so many who answered before me have said, straight people are never forced to face their sexuality the way most LGBT people are. They claim they know everything there is to know about sex and that anyone who is attracted to their own genders are confused and should be made social pariahs and burned at the stake for their sins against the almighty Jesus and pay for it while being cast into hell.
 
i agree with the whole dealing with it idea but also i think its a matter of the age of maturity. when you think you might be gay, you have to like learn about the lifestyle to figure out your identity, and that means a lot of sex stuff too. i started learning about sex, past the obvious, like in 7th grade, so its a bit of a head start. also being a lesbian requires more knowledge about sex to keep it interesting than being straight would, so thats another reason at least i am more ok with sex than my straight peers. just another fact of life, right?
 
i agree with the whole dealing with it idea but also i think its a matter of the age of maturity. when you think you might be gay, you have to like learn about the lifestyle to figure out your identity, and that means a lot of sex stuff too. i started learning about sex, past the obvious, like in 7th grade, so its a bit of a head start. also being a lesbian requires more knowledge about sex to keep it interesting than being straight would, so thats another reason at least i am more ok with sex than my straight peers. just another fact of life, right?
 
Your so right! Like I run into so many questions on typical things people should know about sex. People need to start incorporating sex education into schools.
 
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