Do you ever 'sex text' your husband? I didn't get the response I hoped for!?

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I sent my husband a flirty text suggesting some naughty things we could get up to tonight once the kids are in bed. He replied 'Bloody hell woman, no pressure there then' What did I do wrong? I wasn't crude or vulgar and didn't suggest any really 'out there' stuff. Just regular husband and wife fun!
 
He didn't appreciate you talking to him about sex over the text. Some people don't like that. I know that I wouldn't want to get a text like that I'd rather be one on one with my husband in private not over a text. I know it's "talked about like it's a popular thing to do" but the world has gotten pretty bad and it's probably refreshing to be "normal" once in a while instead of following the crowd.
 
I guess I was going to say the same thing, that at work he has his work head on and into what he needs to be doing. While what you did would have been a welcome thing for most husbands and maybe even him under different circumstances, it just wasn't the day for him. And something like that coming out of the blue so unexpected, might have really caught him off guard. You must remember that most husbands by now would have been wondering what you were up to to have suddenly come on like that. Something to think about before you 'surprise' him again.
 
Maybe you are taking it out of context. Are you sure he was being sarcastic? Maybe he meant "you don't have to ask me twice" like you don't need to pressure him to do that. Forget about the response and do whatever you had planned anyway and then AFTER talk about it with him. Don't let it ruin your day or his.
 
hehehe, I'm sure he was just taken by surprise....don't worry though....same thing happened to me, and later that night well...you know....
 
wow unusual I would not ever send him a flirt again and I most likely would not pleasure him Again for along time I would be hurt and mad .
 
Hmmm...if he is feeling pressure from you, there are stresses going on.
I LOVE getting dirty tex messages from my wife!!!

However, he probably read it at the wrong time OR he has deeper issues afoot.

Give him some space and let him know in a non-verbal way that you love him and that you are there for him. If this goes on for more than a few days, then he has bigger issues.

Try a massage, softer note, or an act of service that would impress him. People have different 'love languages' and perhaps verbal affirmations of your love isn't his thing.

Patience is another intangible expression of your love, so dish that out to him as much as he needs. But store some of those text messages for later! He may come around after you remove the stress from his head.
 
Sometimes it's hard enough to concentrate at work.

Making changes like this happens in fits and starts.
Realistically you are not going to get the response you are dreaming about.

Is he having trouble in that department? It sounds like he's saying you are pressuring him.
 
lol...maybe he got a little pissed thinking.."oh great!! NOW how am I supposed to concentrate on my work for the rest of the day!!" and he was thinking.....do you know how many things still need to happen before we get the kids down?? Maybe...just a thought!!
 
i think he was probably trying to say something like "well you dont have to tell me twice" or something like that. cause you can never figure out what guys mean when they say something. like it sounds like bad, but really they mean something good. to me it sounds like he was saying "goddam woman, no need to tell me twice". or something like that. you never know.
 
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