Do women truly believe they foster an environment of open communication?

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in a relationship? It seems to me, from both personal experience and anecdote, women say they want to hear the truth but often bristle or even try to kill the messenger in an effort to protect their feelings(withholding sex as punishment is a good example). OFten they will only tolerate the truth if it is put in a palatable enough form...

My real question is "why do you act so certain you know what your man thinks and feels unless you are 100% certain you have never done this to him?" Surely you are aware that men have mastered the art of picking their battles b/c you have given them so many opportunites to practice...
 
I have truly never known anyone who did that withholding sex thing... I thought that only happened in crappy American films. lol

You people on here know a shit load of screwy people... Half the time I don't know what you all are talking about. It's like you all live in a steaming tv sit com; I don't know anyone who acts like that! HA
 
It has been said that very few people actually want honesty or open communication. I don't know that that's really true... Don't confuse getting emotional over responses as a desire to never hear the truth. People are entitled to react to the information they receive.

Imagine this scenario playing out over a world stage. If your country wanted to initiate war with another country, would you expect the other nation's prime minister or dictator or whatever to respond with anything other than, "WTF?!" No, of course not. That's a natural response to have to the news that, hey, this country over here thinks you look ugly and wants to rid the world of you. It is an unpleasant message to have to hear. But what's the alternative, opting to not tell them at all? The United Nations would like to have a word with you, buster.

I kind of got lost in my metaphor there, but honesty is always the best policy is what I was aiming for.
 
Women are in love with the concept of love...and the sound of their own voices. The truth is something that is very difficult to explain to a person who is wearing make-up so as to hide herself from her own inner feelings. Point taken?
 
In reality one of the last things women want is the truth. Women don't wear makeup and equip themselves with false breasts because they want the truth. Women don't settle for the guy who initiated with her, then try to change him once the relationship is settled- because they want the truth. Women don't knowingly go into low profit albeit less stressful and 'more rewarding ~:)' fields of study, then complain about making .77 to men's dollar because they want the truth. Women don't yearn for men's respect, yet opt to hide behind Feminism's protection-- then wonder why men don't respect them -- because they are occupied with chasing the truth.

Women foremost want to succeed at all ease, if you can throw the truth in there somewhere without negative effect than so be it.
 
My real answer to your "real" question is: you have absolutely no idea how I act, nor are you entitled to interpret your guesses!

It just sounds like you have had a frustrating argument. You'll get a lot more genuine sympathy if you don't just barge on here ranting.

You may get some answers agreeing that women are terrible, but that's probably not going to be too helpful to you in your real-life interactions.
 
First off I don't think thats a woman thing? My friends always said I had no tact. People don't like to hear the truth if it is unpleasant. Honey do you think I'm losing my hair? Translation -My self esteem is low and I need to know you still find me desireable. Same goes for women asking "Do you think this makes me look fat?" Ah but I digress. So really I think it is a human thing rather than a woman thing. I personally like to hear constructive critisicm but really don't want to hear about stuff that I can't change like that I am too short or my lips are too thin. I do however welcome helpful comments about a certain color not looking good on me, hair would look better short or something of that nature. The moral of my story is if it can't be changed then don't say anything about it.
 
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