Do people who refuse sexual activity have any business being married?

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If a wife (or husband for that matter) has a low sex drive and pretty much refuses to give bjs and hjs, do they have any business being married?
It is one thing if a disease happed after marriage...but if one person just decided one day they don't want to have sex anymore or they were just putting out before marriage to get married.
Shannon, I think you pretty much nail what I'm getting at. It is entirely possible for one person to pretend they like sex just long enough to get through the honey moon, then stop. And the other person gets blindsided.
I should meantion I'm divorced, while I did experience this a bit, the reason I ask is because I keep seeing a lot of questions dealing with mismatched sex drives.
Sue K, you have a screwed up sense of honor...Your husband cheated on you and abused you and you are worried about his feelings? He doesn't worry about yours. Get a divorce, why do you feel the need to torture yourself?
 
No they do not. For me marriage means becoming "one". and that includes: mind, body, spirit. The act of physical intimacy is the closest two people can get when they love each other and are already joined in mind and spirit. .. and if you do not want to give of yourself or to your partner even in the act of intimacy then I believe there are probably other significant things missing as well. (as promised in the vows taken when married)
 
Sex really isn't that big a deal to everyone so yeah they should be married to someone else that doesn't care much about it.

The question is not about an /inability/ it is about an /unwillingness/.

Otherwise it would be perfectly fine for me to say "I'm quitting my job and I expect you to stay with me and love me and take care of me... because you know, For Better or For Worse!"
 
sure they do.
its matter of getting to the root of the problem.

besides if that person had low sex drive before you married her/him, chances are marriage will not fix it.

to refuse sex to prove a point or to spite someone is wrong and people like that shouldn't be married because the other person kinda depends on you for sexual satisfaction.
 
IDK. Good question. My wife is a great mother but if she lacked sex drive, I would have never been as attracted to her. We compliment each other in that department. Low sex drive is a deal killer.
 
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