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I consider myself overall to be a "good girl". I have high respect and confidence about myself that humbles me; I'm kind to others but not a pushover; ambitious, fun, has a set of goals and hobbies; and I'm not easy but can be flirty and mannered and polite. As much as I am enjoying my single life, lately I've been jaded by men. I FEEL as if all guys are the same: some are soo interested in you and will do anything to be near you for one minute and the next, they don't like you; some will lie and believe they can get away with it; some just waste your time for attention bc they're either bored or lonely; and some will only be nice to you because they just want that one thing.
I just read "why men marry bitches" and it's soo empowering and i just realized that I have been th nice girl. And although that is a good atribute, it doesn't get you far. Reading that book has made me realize, women need to find their inner 8 yr old. At that age, boys were never a priority: it was all about getting good grades, reading my favorite books, excited to play my favorite sport during recess, or spending time with the girls playing/talking about barbies. I didn't care what people thought and I always put myself first. When a boy was mean to me, i was mean back; if he made fun of my barbies, i made fun of his trucks; if he insulted me, i insulted him back...if he did anything that was completely disrespectful, I completely ignored him and told him straight up to "never talk to me again bc he was a meanie". If he asked to borrow something and promised he'd give it back, I didn't believe him, called him a liar and didn't trust him. Now entering my mid 20s I look at women and realize how much we've changed from then. Everything is "male centered" - This book inspired me to be my 8 yr old self again: put myself first, be interested in my favorite sports/interests and if a guy ever disrespects me, I cut him off. Here's the thing where I'm torn: I don't want to "change" myself and be someone I'm not although, the book does give women the confidence to OPPOSE and OPENLY DISAGREE w. whatever a guy says or does. Growing up in an old fashioned environment, i've been raised to be "ladylike"...so maybe that's my problem. Maybe I can still be a "good girl" but have more confidence to say "no, I'm still gonna do what I want anyway no matter how much you disagree." and to stick w. your morals. Then I get confused bc this book says the truth how men will always play games or test out women...and I'm tired of games already. I thought if a guy was meant for you, it would all be natural and there wouldn't be game playing. I dated this guy (maybe age has to do alot w. it, he was 21). We went out (took me to dinner) and after that, he didn't call. My co-worker asked him and he said, "if she's really interested, she'd call me". He had a point BUT if he was really man and interested, he would've asked me to hang out again...he also started acting arrogant. It confused me bc I dated someone 5 yrs older when I was 21, he did just that. He called and initiated another meeting - no BS. I sound confused....thoughts?
I just read "why men marry bitches" and it's soo empowering and i just realized that I have been th nice girl. And although that is a good atribute, it doesn't get you far. Reading that book has made me realize, women need to find their inner 8 yr old. At that age, boys were never a priority: it was all about getting good grades, reading my favorite books, excited to play my favorite sport during recess, or spending time with the girls playing/talking about barbies. I didn't care what people thought and I always put myself first. When a boy was mean to me, i was mean back; if he made fun of my barbies, i made fun of his trucks; if he insulted me, i insulted him back...if he did anything that was completely disrespectful, I completely ignored him and told him straight up to "never talk to me again bc he was a meanie". If he asked to borrow something and promised he'd give it back, I didn't believe him, called him a liar and didn't trust him. Now entering my mid 20s I look at women and realize how much we've changed from then. Everything is "male centered" - This book inspired me to be my 8 yr old self again: put myself first, be interested in my favorite sports/interests and if a guy ever disrespects me, I cut him off. Here's the thing where I'm torn: I don't want to "change" myself and be someone I'm not although, the book does give women the confidence to OPPOSE and OPENLY DISAGREE w. whatever a guy says or does. Growing up in an old fashioned environment, i've been raised to be "ladylike"...so maybe that's my problem. Maybe I can still be a "good girl" but have more confidence to say "no, I'm still gonna do what I want anyway no matter how much you disagree." and to stick w. your morals. Then I get confused bc this book says the truth how men will always play games or test out women...and I'm tired of games already. I thought if a guy was meant for you, it would all be natural and there wouldn't be game playing. I dated this guy (maybe age has to do alot w. it, he was 21). We went out (took me to dinner) and after that, he didn't call. My co-worker asked him and he said, "if she's really interested, she'd call me". He had a point BUT if he was really man and interested, he would've asked me to hang out again...he also started acting arrogant. It confused me bc I dated someone 5 yrs older when I was 21, he did just that. He called and initiated another meeting - no BS. I sound confused....thoughts?