Do I have a future with someone who has a history of cheating.?

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Elizabeth

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I have been dating a man of 55 years old, for eight months. I discovered that he was unfaithful to his x-wife and last girlfriend by meeting women on the internet. He also visits porn sites regularly. Then I found out that my boyfriend had started another, what he calls "fantasy" relationship, while we were dating. He sent this woman pictures of his anatomy on two occasions, with disturbing suggestions. They were planning to meet. When I found out, my boyfriend blamed the other woman for enticing him. He cried and pleaded with me to forgive him. He said he was previously unfaithful to his girlfriend, because it was a long distance relationship. His family support him in this excuse. When we started dating we promised to be exclusive to one another.He then told me he had not been involved since his divorce nine years ago. After I found out about his cheating, he admitted that he had left his x-wife for his previous girlfriend . After nine years he left his previous girlfriend for me and actually was involved with us both for a while. without either of us knowing. I was distraught, yet I searched my heart and was able to forgive him. I have been married twice before and want to believe this man. After he broke it off with his previous girfriend on the tephone and also threatened her with a restraining order when she insisted to see him, I moved in with him. Even his old girlfriend agrees that he loves me and wants to be with me. Please advise me if I have a future with this man and if he is likely to change now that he has found true love?
 
I will tell you what I would do: I wouldn't be able to be with a man like that, knowing his past. Everyone has their "past burdens" and history of course, including me. But knowing all the things he's done, which are ALL about cheating and leaving people for other, new people, it would be impossible to trust him. Also, you said he wasn't the one to tell you these things about his past honestly, you found them out. That would be abother thing that would drive me away.

However, you did forgive him and you say you think he found true love in you. I really hope this is true and I wish you the best. But only you can know that. His behaviour, the way he acts around you, your every day life. You can read the signs and see if he is real in what he says or not and then make your decisions.
 
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