i went into a long term relationship as a virgin. after 2 weeks my partner pressure me to have sex with him and i was too nervous to say no so i let him. even though it was so painful he continued to have sex with me, sometimes 4 times a day, he also pressured me to have sex with him in different positions which made me extremely embarrassed and hurt a lot, when i told him i didn't like it he said how can you expect me to have boring sex, i asked him to take it slowly and rest for a few days, he said are we going to watch our faces those days.
i was going really crazy when i got an std which was very painful, and the doc told him, that it was from him and we couldn't have sex until we finished the medications,
anyway after 2 months in our relationship i became more confident and would tell him to go slowly and stuff but he wouldn't compromise on sexual positions, he wanted to try every position possible,i felt humiliated, i'm not sure how he learnt some but im thinking now maybe from porn,
he seemed to think it was my responsibility to give him an orgasm, when i became pregnant i needed to go to the toilet often, onetime i went to the toilet about 4 times and each time he would lose his erection and become agitated with me so he would make me touch him until it became erect again, that day it took him one hour to have an orgasm, i was thoroughly shocked and tired.
i began to resent him i was tired, pregnant, feeling sick, vomiting and all he wanted to do was have sex when he wanted to, i started to hate him, all he wanted from me was food and sex and he wouldn't help me with household chores,
i was no longer attracted to him and couldnt have sex with him, he blamed me for everything, and told me that people who are ill in pregnancy are ill all day so i was obviously pretending, i gathered up courage and left him while still pregnant he said i was being selfish and how could i take our baby, but i didn't want our baby seeing her dad disrespect her mother
all he had to say was I'm very sorry and i will stop the things you hate to make our relationship work, i think with time i would have felt more comfortable with him,
to this day after 2 years he wants to get back with me but i know he doesn't think he did anything wrong so i always refuse
im afraid of getting in another relationship too,
do couples take things slowly in the beginning or am i just afraid of intimacy and my ex behaviour was normal?
i was going really crazy when i got an std which was very painful, and the doc told him, that it was from him and we couldn't have sex until we finished the medications,
anyway after 2 months in our relationship i became more confident and would tell him to go slowly and stuff but he wouldn't compromise on sexual positions, he wanted to try every position possible,i felt humiliated, i'm not sure how he learnt some but im thinking now maybe from porn,
he seemed to think it was my responsibility to give him an orgasm, when i became pregnant i needed to go to the toilet often, onetime i went to the toilet about 4 times and each time he would lose his erection and become agitated with me so he would make me touch him until it became erect again, that day it took him one hour to have an orgasm, i was thoroughly shocked and tired.
i began to resent him i was tired, pregnant, feeling sick, vomiting and all he wanted to do was have sex when he wanted to, i started to hate him, all he wanted from me was food and sex and he wouldn't help me with household chores,
i was no longer attracted to him and couldnt have sex with him, he blamed me for everything, and told me that people who are ill in pregnancy are ill all day so i was obviously pretending, i gathered up courage and left him while still pregnant he said i was being selfish and how could i take our baby, but i didn't want our baby seeing her dad disrespect her mother
all he had to say was I'm very sorry and i will stop the things you hate to make our relationship work, i think with time i would have felt more comfortable with him,
to this day after 2 years he wants to get back with me but i know he doesn't think he did anything wrong so i always refuse
im afraid of getting in another relationship too,
do couples take things slowly in the beginning or am i just afraid of intimacy and my ex behaviour was normal?