Do any other women have trouble seeking the approval of older women?

[Juditha]

With my mother, I always feel like nothing I do is good enough. Perhaps that's part of a mother's job. I feel this way with my future mother in law as well but I can also understand that this might be to be expected. But I find it generally with the older women in my life. In fact, since my grandmother died, there hasn't been an older woman in my life I could feel at ease with. Even when I try to be on my best behavior, act in a ladylike and helpful way, listen rather than talk, try to show as much consideration as possible, I still find myself criticized or getting disdainful looks.

Is this something other women experience? Does anyone have any suggestions? Does anyone have any ideas why I might have this problem?