Let's start a discussion to see if you agree or disagree. No disrespectful comments, please. They will be reported.
The scenario: Mommy and Little Johnny are shopping at the grocery store.
Little Johnny is walking down an aisle with mommy, absent-mindedly flailing his arms everywhere and touching shelves because he's bored. You've told him to keep his hands to himself. His arms hit a row of food which falls to the floor and you're obviously mad. This is NOT the time to punish your child. This requires DISCIPLINE (which requires a learning experience). You tell Johnny that he was not supposed to be touching shelves - you tell him it was an accident but he needs to pick up the food he knocked down. He learns the consequences of his actions without being punished. He learns responsibility, and you've given him a clear reason as to why you've asked him to keep his hands to himself. You have disciplined your child.
In another case, Little Johnny is walking down an aisle with Mommy and sees a toy he wants. Mommy tells Johnny that she can only afford groceries today, but he might get a toy next time. Of course this makes Johnny man, who immediately starts screaming and throwing a tantrum. He is on the floor crying and kicking around. You need to get control of the situation. You've already explained why he can't have the toy, so now it is time to punish your misbehaving child. You can pop his hand or spank his butt, put him in the buggy and tell him he cannot walk the aisles like a big boy today because he threw a baby tantrum, and tell him he will not be getting a toy for your next shopping trip unless he can calm down and act like a big boy. He will either continue to whine or be silent. You have punished your child.
The difference between the two: Discipline is reserved for children making mistakes. We should never punish a child for a mistake he made - he is, after all, just a child. In discipline, you teach a lesson and enforce your rule. Punishment, however, is reserved for the child who is deliberately acting up because he did not get his way. I believe an affective punishment is spanking. It is not child abuse and does not emotionally harm the child (I was spanked occasionally as a child). If you're at home and able to prolong a punishment, spanking should be substituted for no toys, no TV, no dessert, etc. I use spanking and "hand popping" in public when I'm unable to use the child's home comforts as negotiation tools.
Discuss whether you agree or disagree with spanking, punishment vs. discipline, or anything else.
I think I'm more of a hand popping person than a spanking person, but I don't rule it out. Why do you disagree with spanking or why do you think you won't use it on your children? Please explain why it's wrong or right - I'm curious as to why you think that.
The scenario: Mommy and Little Johnny are shopping at the grocery store.
Little Johnny is walking down an aisle with mommy, absent-mindedly flailing his arms everywhere and touching shelves because he's bored. You've told him to keep his hands to himself. His arms hit a row of food which falls to the floor and you're obviously mad. This is NOT the time to punish your child. This requires DISCIPLINE (which requires a learning experience). You tell Johnny that he was not supposed to be touching shelves - you tell him it was an accident but he needs to pick up the food he knocked down. He learns the consequences of his actions without being punished. He learns responsibility, and you've given him a clear reason as to why you've asked him to keep his hands to himself. You have disciplined your child.
In another case, Little Johnny is walking down an aisle with Mommy and sees a toy he wants. Mommy tells Johnny that she can only afford groceries today, but he might get a toy next time. Of course this makes Johnny man, who immediately starts screaming and throwing a tantrum. He is on the floor crying and kicking around. You need to get control of the situation. You've already explained why he can't have the toy, so now it is time to punish your misbehaving child. You can pop his hand or spank his butt, put him in the buggy and tell him he cannot walk the aisles like a big boy today because he threw a baby tantrum, and tell him he will not be getting a toy for your next shopping trip unless he can calm down and act like a big boy. He will either continue to whine or be silent. You have punished your child.
The difference between the two: Discipline is reserved for children making mistakes. We should never punish a child for a mistake he made - he is, after all, just a child. In discipline, you teach a lesson and enforce your rule. Punishment, however, is reserved for the child who is deliberately acting up because he did not get his way. I believe an affective punishment is spanking. It is not child abuse and does not emotionally harm the child (I was spanked occasionally as a child). If you're at home and able to prolong a punishment, spanking should be substituted for no toys, no TV, no dessert, etc. I use spanking and "hand popping" in public when I'm unable to use the child's home comforts as negotiation tools.
Discuss whether you agree or disagree with spanking, punishment vs. discipline, or anything else.
I think I'm more of a hand popping person than a spanking person, but I don't rule it out. Why do you disagree with spanking or why do you think you won't use it on your children? Please explain why it's wrong or right - I'm curious as to why you think that.