Difference in sex drives causing problems!?

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johnny5

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Ok so I have been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years now....at first everything was great and sexually aswell mentally were compatible and when i say compatible i mean it was electric, just great. I have a pretty high sex drive but recently she has told me she was just trying to please me by having sex so much in the start and now she is more comfortable with me so she doesnt feel she has to....I am finding it particularly difficult lately and have made an effort to be less into it and try to work with her needs but it is getting extremely frustrating and is making me question myself. I also do not want to be one of the couples who just falls into the comfort zone and she seems happy to do it...
I fooled around at the start of relationship but after a month i realised this girl was a bit special so stopped and do not want to go back to that but am finding it extremely tempting to go back to old ways but i stop myself and dont put myself in those positions anymore....I know a scumbag thing to say but its just annoying having such a great girl who in every other aspect is perfect!! she says all girls arent really that into sex or at least her friends...I have to admit it crosses my mind about her not being pleased or enjoying herself but I have als had a great reputation(sounds like hot air so make what you will of it) and am literally willing to be her slave or do anything she wants if it means she enjoys herself as that is part of the pleasure for me!!
I try to discuss it with her but I am beginning to feel guilty about talking even thinking about sex!! I know I have an extremely high sex drive and its tough on her but im beginning to feel bad for having it.....to be honest this isnt really a question, more venting and looking for opinions!! Is there councilling or a way around this problem that doesnt involve parting ways!!

I dont know if it makes a diff but she does, ill admit dabble in drugs on the occasional night out which frustrates me but im wondering does this have an effect? I play alot of sport and not into them at all although drink quite a bit socially
 
Maybe think back to when you first dated, she gave you sex all the time, what did you do for her?

Are you still that sweet loving guy she fell in love with? Do you do little tender things for her? Remember that women are more emotional/mental about sex, its not just physical for us, the other stuff has to be there too (for most, I don't speak for all) So just try being good to her more often, it might put her in a better mood. Touch her more often during the day, just simple things though, like holding her hand, putting your hand around her waist, play with her hair, stroke her face tell her how wonderful she is. just don't go straight for the ass/boobs, it will kill her mood if she isn't ready, when guys are overly horny it make us feel like thats all they want. Start out tender and then once you get to the bed let loose.

I just want to add that if you cheat just because you aren't fulfilled sexually then you are a pig. You said yourself you know she is amazing, why hurt her like that? Maybe that's why she put out more in the beginning cause you were fooling around and she was trying to keep you interested. (such bullshit that guys do that, "I have needs bullshit" and use it as an excuse to cheat, makes us feel like we have to have sex with you or else you'll leave. Make her WANT to have sex with you. Don't make her feel like she has to.
 
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