Did you discuss children before getting married or otherwise committing to a

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alicialions

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relationship? Did you just fall in love and move in together or get married without ever discussing what you each wanted in a relationship and if you wanted children etc and how you would raise them or did you actually talk at length about this and find common goals of wants and don't wants before you committed to your partnership?
 
My husband and I talked about it two years into our relationship (we were high school sweet hearts kids were nowhere in our mind at the time). Before we got married we again discussed how many kids we want and when we would like to have them etc.. We still don't agree 100% on how kids should be raised but nothing major.
 
i was a player. i never took relationships seriously. then along came this guy (my husband now) whom while courting me, told me plans about a quaint house in a nice neighborhood, cute little kids that would look exactly like us, great education, family outings...
i was surprised! this was a part of a relationship that i never really considered: children, a family!
anyway, i married the man because i decided that maybe it is time to get serious. and he's given me all that he promised. 2 cute boys, a great education for them, lovely, simple trips around the country with our little family.
we're working together for the house part of his plan now.
it's great when you talk about things together. it gives you a better perspective of life, and a stronger commitment to work for it together. it gives your love a plan, a direction.
 
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