Demonic posession?

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Camo13ammo

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Okay guys, sorry for this, but its a doozy.

So for the past month or so, I've been evaluating my relationship wiht my girlfriend. We have been dating for over 3 years now, and she said she wanted to move out of her house the moment she turns 18, which is in April. We've been scouring the classifieds for affordable apartments, and I haven't really thought about anything. I just said, "Yeah, sure!" to pretty much everything she said.

A little less than a week ago, I went over to my fathers place of employment to talk to some of his co-workers. One of his co-workers, Moll, is on the admissions board to a college that I applied to, and another, Mike, graduated from a different college with a degree that I'm interested in obtaining (computer science). Well, durring these conversations, my dad went to go find Mike, and Molly and I were talking. She was telling me about how if I'm serious about college, then hers isn't the one, because its a public 2-year technical school, while on the other hand, the two other schools I'm interested in are 4-year schools. We talked about what I plan on doing, and college life. I told her that I wanted to move in with my girlfriend, and she immediately told me it was a bad idea.

A little while later my father showed up with Mike, and we all go to talking. We eventually got on the topic of college life again, and I told them that I want to go to UMD (University of Minnesota, Duluth), and live on the dorms, because I want my college life to be fun, and have plentiful of new experiences, and meeting new people, and that me living in an apartment with my girlfriend, sheltering myself from everything else, isn't the best way to go.

But durring all this, in the back of my mind, I was thinking about how my girlfriend just controls me. If I don't do something that she wants me to do, she says that I wont change for her, even though everything we do favors her. During breakfast the next day, I told her that Iwasn't going to move out with her, but I was going to live in the dorms, so I can meet new people and have new experiences. She appeared to be fine, but later that day, before I had to go to work, she came over and we "had a talk". It was about what SHE is going to do, where SHE is going to live, and where SHE is going to sleep. And she just talked about all the hardships that SHE is going to have to endure without me moving out with her, even though me moving into the dorms, I would be able to save all my money from work for tuition and shit, and my dad would give me $300 (or something, I'm not quite sure still) to live at home, so it was all weighing in my favor.

Fast forward to last night. I was playing CS till about 3 AM, and right before I hit the sack, I get a text message from my GF. She told me that something really scary happened to her, and she didn't know what to do. So I called her, and she said that someone or something had their hand around her neck, and that she couldn't scream or anything, but she remembers talking to it wiht her mind, saying, "I'm sorry!" and the being replied, "If you were sorry it wouldn't have happened again." She swears that she was wide awake during this whole thing, because she could move her hands, but her body was paralyzed. She then said that she went into another dream, and that her cat woke her up, which is the only reason that she knows that this happened. When her cat woke her up, she immediately thought that she needs to put her to sleep (death), but then realized that that is not what she wants.

So now I'm in this situation where I dont even know WHAT the fuck to think. I know this all sounds fucked up, but I'm not sure what to do about of this. I'm not sure if I should stay with this girl, because I know that her mom is on a ton of meds for mental shit, and I'm thinking that it could be passed down to her, or if shes going to be controlling like that still. So were still together, but we dont touch, and when we do kiss, its a peck, instead of a hug kiss thing, so I have been distancing myself. But I'm not sure where to go from here... any ideas?

Edit: No edits really, I just want to point out that my grammar is horrible tonight. lol.
 
Ok, now is she one to go to drastic measures to get something done?

Obviously shes not happy about you not moving in with you, But would you believe that shes making that up to make you move in with her just to keep her eye out.

BUT, if you can no way in hell (no pun intended) see her doing this, then stick with her and help her out. Don't want her getting to fucked up here.
 
That's some ill shit, Cow. You realize that she's a ball-n-chain, good. A lot of dudes in you situation don't realize how bad they have it. Seriously, you need to end this relationship. The way you describe it, you should've gotten out of it a long time ago. Relationships are about compromise, you say that everything yall do collectively favors her. That implies one or both of the following:
  • she's being selfish and you are letting her get away with it
  • she is making sacrifices as well, but you aren't noticing it-- meaning you are being self centered
Either way, continuing the relationship is a recipe for a lifetime of unhappiness. If you don't escape soon, she'll end up pregnant and then you'll really be screwed. You need to have a talk with her. Sooner rather than later. You'll be doing youself and her a huge favor.
 
Now wait a second. First off, she can't control anything unless you let her. Second off, if you love her then that really doesn't matter. Hell, my grandma and mother told thier husbands how to live, eat and breathe for years (which is why I'm such a bitch)

The only thing that matters is if the good outwieghs the bad.

On the other hand, I don't think anyone (unless they are married) should go from high school to college in a relationship. Too many changes will occur, and quickly.

Now, I realize that the last convo you had with her was all about her talking about her----did you stop to think that there is a reason for that, mabye she is scared freaking shitless and just wants someone to put thier arms around her and tell her it will be allright. Mabye she's to proud to actuallly ASK someone to do that (if she's anything like me, you can bet thats the case).
 
Well your gf sounds a bit controlling, but not crazy. The dream thing was just a bout of sleep paralysis. Happens to normal, sane people all the time.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_paralysis

See under cultural references, especially the first one. I've had similar things happen to me, although not quite to that extent. Definitely sleep paralysis. Nothing to worry about.

If you do want to stay with her, perhaps you should talk to her about your feelings. If she gets upset, then oh well, you tried, and your relationship certainly wasn't getting any better anyway.
 
Thing is, I can see her doing those drasitc measures. When we first started dating, in 9th grade, we went out for about 3 months, then we broke up. During that summer, she said that every day she would make a noose, and put her neck in it, and want to kill herself, or she would cut herself. Then we started going out again, and she told me all this, and all I could think is wow. But yeah, Im' pretty sure that I'm gunna dump her, and just gear up for college life.
 
Your girlfriend simply had what some would call a night terror. We learned about them in my Psychology class this year. People go through different cycles of sleep, starting out at Stage 1, then incrementing in both stage number and deepness of sleep until Stage 5. Then you head back down, and have REM sleep somewhere near Stage 1 and 2 of sleep.

Night Terrors occur around Stage 4, where you are in a relatively deep sleep. When you sleep, your body excretes a neurotransmitter than paralyzes your muscles so they cannot move. But sometimes people have a nightmare during Stage 4 of sleep, and when they try to wake up, they escape such a deep sleep at such a rapid pace that they not only think they are still dreaming, they still cannot move their limbs (as if they are still asleep).

I'm sorry your girlfriend seems like a burden...but I wouldn't take the whole dream thing as a big deal, night terrors are not extremely rare and usually don't have any sort of supernatural connection.
 
It could also be that, "if you leave me I'll kill myself thing." By saying that or anything like that she is trying to keep you all to herself. Beware of that.

Tell your folks and hers what is going on. I think that would be the best way to handle that.
 
Have you and your girlfriend ever had an honest two-way conversation? With both of you actively listening to the other before providing your point of view?

While it is true that some couples live and love for years with one partner making most of the decisions, the only time that is successful is when the other partner likes it that way.

It sounds like right now, the two of you are just going along with things, not wanting to make waves or truly discuss what you each want - short term and long term. It's hard to make any sort of plans that involve the two of you until you do that.

If that's not what either of you want to do, then you're probably just making plans for yourselves and hoping that the other one goes along. That's not very realistic.

And you know that going along with someone because of threats of self-harm is not healthy for either of you. It supports her illusions of power, and enables her to continue that manipulation. If she really thinks that way, she needs more help than you can provide.
 
She used to see a shrink about all her problems, but just to talk about them. I don't know why she doesn't see her anymore, because she has nothing better to do. She quit her job because she has fibromyalgia, and just sits at home all day, watching TV and reading. Thats all she does. I can't make her do anything, she must want the help herself. She doesn't want to get better, because her huge fucking ego doesn't want to admit that something is wrong with her.

Also, about the night terror things, she could freely move her arms and hands, but she couldn't speak. It wasn't sleep paralysis, because of that fact. She was putting her hands to her neck to stop the choking feeling, and couldn't do anything about it. The next day she got a sore throat, and could hardly talk.
 
Either that or she thought she was moving her hands, but was just dreaming, or maybe she could move her hands but not the rest of her body. Night terrors and sleep paralysis happen when you are half dreaming. It would also not surprise me if she got a sore throat because she thought she was being choked. Psychological things can manifest themselves physically. There's a logical explanation here. Your gf was not visited by a telepathic strangler demon.
 
Haha, yeah.

I honestly think that there is a scientific explanation behind all this, I just didn't know where to start. This whole thing has been so hard on me lately, and I'm pretty sure that I want a cigarette, but I dont wanna give my body one, because I know it just wants one because it had one a couple days ago. Go to hell, body.

Thanks for all the help, everyone. It really means a lot.
 
To be honest, I think she is just trying to get a reaction out of you by saying all these things. She wants to be with you so she can control you.
I think she is trying to convince you to still move in with her, because she still thinks she can do that.
I'm glad you've realised you're better without, it may be hard on her but I think she will be okay.
 
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