Dealing with harsh comments!

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Hi everyone,

I went out with some people that i haven't seen in a few years. A few years ago i had amazing skin with no zits in sight. Of course now, i'm almost erabarassed to step outside. Anyway, a few days ago i went out and i got a pretty nasty comment. I feel that he was making a joke, but it wasn't funny, it was really hurtful. I guess since he had never seen me like that it was hard not to comment. (Basically we were in the mall and passed a proactiv stand and he said that i should shop there) Just for the record i have used proactiv and it made my skin worse, but what does he think that i don't have a mirror? It pretty much ruined my whole day and it was a few days ago and i'm still upset. How do you deal with harsh comments?
 
Yeah, some people dont seem to think before making comments like this. I just try and suck it up, tell myself im a better person because id never do such a thing, and remind myself one day things will calm down.
 
Thanks for all your comments everybody. I'm actually sitting here crying my eyes out because i'm just so sick of this, but reading your stories makes me feel like i'm not the only one in the world with this problem. It's sooooooooo hard, i thought we were supposed to grow out of this.
 
I understand comments like that. It's hard in school too. I was in class recently and this girl goes "hey jessikah, your face is broken out". I said "not that I don't look in the mirror EVERY DAY, thank you for informing me". That hurt me really bad. I came to realize it's part of life..and just a flaw i have. It does hurt. I get made fun of a lot. But you just have to have confidence and know you are a beautiful person..no matter what anyone says.
 
I'm always tempted to say in response: In five years my skin will be clear, but you'll still be a [insert insult of choice here]. But I've never actually had the guts to say that.

Just know you're not alone!

Sue :)
 
With a right hook to the face.

Is it against the rules to say that? I'm not really encouraging violence, I'm just saying that's how I deal with it.
 
Oh man, I remeraber getting quite a few comments in the past, back when acne didn't mean so much to me so I never wore makeup or really cared. Until the comments came strolling in. I guess some people just have no heart at all, they look at someone less fortunate than them and think they can just tell it like it is. Until it happens to them. One of my brothers frienRAB once called me pizza face (hurt me real bad) and I told him he was a fat a** (he has weight issues - kind of) and that stopped him in his tracks. He never said anything about my face again after that. I think some people need a piece of the pie until they realize, 'hey..that hurts'.

*Hugs* But hang in there. That was rude of your friend. No body can understand how much comments hurt other people with acne unless they've gone through it themselves.
 
I agree, some people just don't think before they speak.

Sometimes if I'm having an especially bad breakout, one of my frienRAB will say things like, "What happened to your face?" and it makes me feel like smacking her, because, seriously... what does it LOOK LIKE?

Although, she is also one of those people who has a perfect complexion and has probably never broken out in her life, so I wouldn't expect her to understand what it feels like to have people asking you those kinRAB of things.
 
I've only gotten a comment like that once. It wasn't really rude though. A little kid asked me what the stuff was on my face. I told him it was acne and he said it doesn't look like acne (it was cystic and horrible), and I just replied, "Well, it is. There are different kinRAB of acne". It did hurt my feelings, but honestly not any worse than what I feel when I look in a mirror. I just remained as calm as I could and answered his question. He was just being honest- it's not like my acne is invisible. Now the Proactiv comment was out of line. It's never happened with acne, but when people say things like that to me about other things, I talk to them about it and they usually apologize and feel bad.

To me, it's the supportive, helpful intentioned comments that hurt more. FrienRAB saying, "Wow, your skin has cleared up a lot...not totally, but a lot!" and then everyone hears and turns around to comment too and then the whole room is focused on my face and I'm just standing there squirming, wishing to god that no one was looking at me. It makes me feel like some kind of puppy in a cage or something, like I'm everyone's pet to feel sorry for. I'm more than the crap on my face. I wish everyone would just pretend it doesn't exist.

My husband is the only one who doesn't call attention to it. I ask him if he thinks I'm not pretty because of my acne and he says "What acne?". And I know that he isn't just saying that to make me feel good, that actually isn't what he sees when he looks at me.
 
Yeah, with kiRAB it still hurts, but not as much, because... they don't really know any better.

Once I was in an elevator with a mother and her son, who was probably about four or five, and I could hear him whispering, "Mommy, what is that on her face?!"
 
yeah, it sucks.
like one time when i had bad breakout, and everybody in my class were like "what did you do to your face?" and yeah like i pour acid on my face, duh? it's stupid! most of the time i would fire back "what do you think i did to my face? it's acne, you moron!!" haha

even worst, when people who doesnt have a clue on how to cure acne (coz they never have zits) try to suggest things to you like you never take care of your skin before. i know they meant well, but they just don't get the whole 'ignorance is bliss' thing.
 
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