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My dad NEVER has a nice thing to say about anyone in our family - he will go out of his way to place blame on everything that's gone wrong on me, my sister, and my mother. He treats my mom's family like crap, saying that they're all stupid and bad, ignorant people (they're all wonderful, actually). Every time he messes something up he blames it instead on my sister (we're twins) and I, saying that it's our fault, that we messed it up, that we mess everything up. He has an older daughter from another marriage (moved out now) who he treats really nicely and is always respectable to her because he loves her (she's really girly and thin, my sister and I are the opposite of girly and we're overweight. He's really big on the gender roles crap)
So, it's 9:30 right now and I'm hungry. I had lunch around 1:00 pm and I haven't eaten anything since then. My dad won't let me eat, though. The thing is I'm pretty overweight (5'3 and 180 pounds) and he's being really obnoxious and quite rude about me, my sister and my mother needing to lose weight. But it's been over eight hours, come on. This is ridiculous. Everytime we do get to eat he makes really snarky comments, or tells us to stop eating and starts a massive fight, followed by some desperate attempts to get us on a treadmill RIGHT NOW and tell him how much we weight RIGHT NOW, everything RIGHT NOW we need to lose all the weight RIGHT NOW RIGHT NOW RIGHT NOW OMG LOSE 50 POUNDS IN A MONTH OR ELSE that sort of bullshit. It's been driving me crazy! For months now everything he says is a comment on how fat we are or how we need to get on a treadmill and every time we eat it's STOP EATING and all this crap. He yells at my mom about how we have no self esteem because we don't make ourselves pretty and lose weight and put on makeup and look 'dirty' (I look 'dirty' to him because of acne and sometimes I have an oily face, explained by the fact that I am a teenager [I DO WASH MY FACE EVERY DAY WITH ACNE MEDICATION AND FACIAL SOAP]) as if our self esteem was based entirely on how we look, which it isn't (it's based on the fact that my sister and I are quite accomplished academically and musically and that we're good, friendly people with great friends - in fact, the only thing that makes us feel bad about ourselves is HIM).
What do I do? :/ I know I have to lose weight, I just can't do it with his obnoxiousness because then he's going to do what he always does - take the credit for himself. I can't do ANYTHING knowing that he is going to use it to prove how superior he is to all of us.
Thank you, everyone, for the acne advice, but when I say acne I mean like one small pimple every once in a while that he thinks means I have a very dirty face and that I never wash it. I don't actually have bad acne.
So, it's 9:30 right now and I'm hungry. I had lunch around 1:00 pm and I haven't eaten anything since then. My dad won't let me eat, though. The thing is I'm pretty overweight (5'3 and 180 pounds) and he's being really obnoxious and quite rude about me, my sister and my mother needing to lose weight. But it's been over eight hours, come on. This is ridiculous. Everytime we do get to eat he makes really snarky comments, or tells us to stop eating and starts a massive fight, followed by some desperate attempts to get us on a treadmill RIGHT NOW and tell him how much we weight RIGHT NOW, everything RIGHT NOW we need to lose all the weight RIGHT NOW RIGHT NOW RIGHT NOW OMG LOSE 50 POUNDS IN A MONTH OR ELSE that sort of bullshit. It's been driving me crazy! For months now everything he says is a comment on how fat we are or how we need to get on a treadmill and every time we eat it's STOP EATING and all this crap. He yells at my mom about how we have no self esteem because we don't make ourselves pretty and lose weight and put on makeup and look 'dirty' (I look 'dirty' to him because of acne and sometimes I have an oily face, explained by the fact that I am a teenager [I DO WASH MY FACE EVERY DAY WITH ACNE MEDICATION AND FACIAL SOAP]) as if our self esteem was based entirely on how we look, which it isn't (it's based on the fact that my sister and I are quite accomplished academically and musically and that we're good, friendly people with great friends - in fact, the only thing that makes us feel bad about ourselves is HIM).
What do I do? :/ I know I have to lose weight, I just can't do it with his obnoxiousness because then he's going to do what he always does - take the credit for himself. I can't do ANYTHING knowing that he is going to use it to prove how superior he is to all of us.
Thank you, everyone, for the acne advice, but when I say acne I mean like one small pimple every once in a while that he thinks means I have a very dirty face and that I never wash it. I don't actually have bad acne.