Cutters: What the fuck can I do?

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Mdot, I can see why you're a bit pissed at my post. I worded it wrong. What I meant was, the majority of the people who are so called "emo" take a paper clip and "cut" themselves to make themselves (ironically) fit in with their other "emo" buddies. The woman he is talking about is taking it very seriously. If I offended you with that post I didnt mean to. But you have to admit, most of the people see it like this "Well, he did it. So I guess thats how to handle my problems"
 
I find this astounding. People actually DO this to fit in? That's vile and disgusting. :confused:



Yep. Also, I often hope something horrible will happen to me and I will die or end up really hurt, just to make someone sorry for their actions towards me. Or killing myself to hurt someone. I can't bring myself to hurt someone directly. :happysad: LoL, what a fucked up character trait.
 
Mdot, youd be really surprised. In our school, there is a small group of fad emos that cut themselves with paper clips to make it look all serious. Hell, I could walk through the woods and get bigger cuts.
 
If you don't want to give her the attention she seeks, then don't. Ignore her. If she is cutting for the attention, she will eventually stop if she doesn't get any.

If she is cutting because of extreme emotional pain, and therapy didn't help her, then it is unlikely that you could help her either.

Maybe you could help her find a better coping mechanism. I hear escapism is good. When you want to cut, bury yourself in distraction. Radio, books, daydreaming, that sort of thing.

Really, this situation seems out of your control.



Some people cut because they feel that it's the only pain they can control.



That is seriously stupid.
 
Cutting and self injury in general is a sensitive matter, especially with the way it's viewed in society today. Most people are quick to dismiss anything of the nature as "emo," or some desperate attention whore's plea for the public eye. There are definitely fine lines between a true problem, a cry for attention, and a mixture of both... and sometimes even those who self mutilate for the same reason others get tattoos and piercings.

Self mutilation is, for most, an addiction comparable to drugs. It's a very serious addiction, both physically and mentally. In most all cases, it requires medical attention. From what you've said, your friend has gone through treatment without success. Like a drug addict, she won't ever change unless she wants to change.

There isn't much you can do, really. Be her friend, listen if she needs it... Try to reinforce the idea that she needs help, and that she needs to change. Just know that no matter how hard you try, nothing will change unless she wants it.

If you feel that you are fueling her addiction, politely excuse yourself from the situation and don't make a big deal of it. If you feel that it requires attention, but don't feel it's your place, notify those who need to know, and then stay out of it any further.
 
Some psychologists believe that cutting is a sign of serious OCD rather than depression.

With that said, I'm not sure how to feel about "cutters". I suffer from clinical depression and also feel the very heavy emotional turmoil caused by real life problems(not because I think my parents don't understand me or other such teen angst).

Not once did I ever want to slice my skin up or jam needles into my self to use physical pain to override emotional pain. As a-matter-of factly, I'm such a pussy when it comes to pain..that when I did try to kill myself...I used sleeping pills because they aren't painful.

Obviously I failed, since I'm on this forum. Go figure.


Onto to the OP, I would watch what else your friend is doing to see if there is a pattern. If she is a minor, I would definitely tell her parents or closest loving relative/parent figure.

It's not ethical to allow her to continue mutilating herself like that.
 
As it turns out, this shit just keeps getting better. Due to my lapse of judgment mentioned in the OP, I apparently opened the door to more of this shit ahead. She called me at home today (how the fuck she got my number is beyond me) and felt the need to inform me that she went to the hospital today and was treated, receiving 8 stitches.

She offered to show me the repaired wound, but I declined, having "seen all I need to see". In the next few days, I'll hopefully be able to withdraw from the situation...I'll also need to borrow one of those Neuralyzers from MIB so I force her to forget my number.

Fuck this.
 
Next time she bugs you about her "cuts" tell her to cut down the road, and not across the street, because if she's going to be an idiot she may as well go all the way."
 
Cutting is something that some people can't control. In fact, there are several people who have self mutilation problems that don't even know it. There are others who have it and hide it, because they don't want others to know. There are also people that have it and want to stop.

I have run into people that cut themselves for the attention. Those people make me angry. Really, they do. They actually do this for the attention, and make those who actually have a problem look like they're just following a trend.

It's sad really.
 
honestly that's why I said what I said, from what he's told us about her, she's an attention seeking whore.

but I've been known to be wrong before.
 
If you were mistaken, you would not be far off.

EDIT: Attention seeking whore is quite dead on, and I apparently must spread some reputation around before giving it to Unspun again.
 
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