couples that argue...is it necessary?

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me and my boyfriend have been together 8 months and we've never had an actual argument. we have great communication and have never had anything to fight about, besides play arguing.

i've been told by 2 different people that my relationship is "unhealthy" and that we should be fighting.

are they just jealous? why do we have to find something to fight about when we're perfectly happy? anyone else have this problem??
 
Well fighting is healthy as long as it's not too much. It's a way of expressing how we feel about something towards one another. While not arguing is not "unhealthy" it is a bit odd in my opinion. I wouldn't say they're jealous, they're probably just very opinionated. If you two are perfectly happy with each other then you shouldn't find something to argue about. Once again, I just find it weird that you haven't had one argument.
 
No, different people have different styles of communication... and differnt ways of resolving conflict. Sometimes it looks like arguing, sometimes it looks like talking things out, sometimes it looks like taking space to cool down.

It has been shown that statistically, the style makes NO difference... as long as both parties have the same style. Sound's like you two do -- congratulations.
 
I would be extremely jealous. If you don't argue, then that's a wondeful thing as long as you aren't settling or constantly compromising your beliefs.

This isn't a problem or unhealthy. People CAN have healthy arguments though, but it's better to not have any.
 
No they're not jealous. They just have issues in their relationships. Maybe you don't know each other quite well enough to argue. Maybe nothing has come up about one another's behavior that bug you as yet.
 
well it is definitely a bit odd that you have never had a huge fight after being together for so long, but that doesn't make it unhealthy. i would be concerned though because you will eventually get into a fight and you might not know how to deal with it as a couple. that doesn't mean that you should go pick a fight over something insignificant like most couples i know do, but just be prepared that this bliss probably won't last forever.
 
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