Been married for almost 4 yrs. The first 6 mons of our relationship was great sexually. As soon as he moved in with me things started slowing down, when we got married a yr later things got even worse. We now have sex about 4 times per month. He is 46 I am 44.
I have talked to him and the only answers I get are "we are an old married couples, it happens" "not tonight, maybe tomorrow" "exhausted" I have tried to start the act and get no reaction or get the sounds of him sleeping (faking).
We started seeing a therapist for "blended family" issues and the topic of our sex life has come up. He said he thinks it all has to do with the way his EX wife treated him during their marriage. They had sex only when she wanted it, she belittled him and their entire relationship was nothing but stress, fighting and arguements. They have been divorced for 9 yrs.
I have found where he looks at porn on the internet. I told him him I am beginning to feel it has nothing to do with his ex, he has lost interest in me. He has a wife who wants it 24/7 365 and he would rather look at the internet or just please himself alone.
I have talked to him and the only answers I get are "we are an old married couples, it happens" "not tonight, maybe tomorrow" "exhausted" I have tried to start the act and get no reaction or get the sounds of him sleeping (faking).
We started seeing a therapist for "blended family" issues and the topic of our sex life has come up. He said he thinks it all has to do with the way his EX wife treated him during their marriage. They had sex only when she wanted it, she belittled him and their entire relationship was nothing but stress, fighting and arguements. They have been divorced for 9 yrs.
I have found where he looks at porn on the internet. I told him him I am beginning to feel it has nothing to do with his ex, he has lost interest in me. He has a wife who wants it 24/7 365 and he would rather look at the internet or just please himself alone.