Copycat sister in law?

[Lookin4Lily]

I have got a sister in law that copies a lot of what my husband and I do as a couple. When he got his durango, she got a van. When w got a flatscreen TV, she bought one bigger. She even copies the purses that I buy... but the ones she gets is fake (you can tell between the real and fake ones). She thought she was doing me a favor buying me a purse (that looks real) for Christmas. I am working hard right now trying to loose weight - eating well and workout 5 days a week.. Now, I hear she wants to do bariatric surgery! When you go into her trailer, I can see where she tries to copy what's in my house. This is frustrating. I would really like to talk to her about it but everyone in the family says I shouldn't because it will make her blood pressure sky rocket and put her back in the hospital. It's not my fault she doesn't take care of herself! So.... this is REALLY bothering me. What should i do?

 

[advice guru and mom]

live with it obviously she is annoying you to death but sounds like she envoyss you... and wants to be like you... try being flattered instead of annoyed then try to help her decorate and have her own style

 

[me too]

How do you know you aren't copying her?

You cannot copyright style - and I daresay Who have you been copying off?

Either see it as her trying to emulate you out of respect, or see it as this huge inconvenience and problem. Why not be her friend, and do things together, it's obvious you both have the same taste....Maybe you could help her in her weight loss rather than be bitter about it.

 

[letterstoheather]

Your sister in law probably looks up to you.. and she may be envious of you.

She likely has low self-esteem. Knowing you might be helping her.

I don't see why a person would be upset about something like this. It's petty