Constantly Whining Son What to Do?

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My son is 17 months and always whining to the point that if we go to a party he will whine and irritate everyone, he uses the same whine for everything even to ask for things or make requests, what can I do to get him to be more independent and less dramatical and whiny?
 
It's partly psychological. There is something called positive and negative reinforcement. If you give in to your son while he is whining, he will learn to do it more often since it gets him what he wants. You need to show him that whining will not get him anything or anywhere.
 
Whining will continue if it works for him. Its also very normal at this age, so you need to teach him that it doesn't work. All children at this age need to learn to self-comfort when they don't get what they want or are disappointed. They also need to learn the social skills for how to make requests. Let's face it, we all know adults who still whine and throw fits and its not pleasent.

When my kids were little and their requests were reasonable I would have model "big girl words" with a calm voice that they needed to repeat. At 17 months you give him one or maybe 2 words. At first it took a few trys, but eventually they got it. If they threw a fit, it was definately "no." When my girls were about two, my mantra was, "Big girl voice or its 'no'" and by they were three, it was "If you whine, the answer is no." They are teens now, and don't whine, however they are very charming manipulators.

Good luck, remember this is normal.
 
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