Ok so i'm going to college in Aug. and I'm still a virgin. I really want to find the right guy but i also don't want to find a guy who will only date me to have sex. (No offense because i know not ALL guys are like that). I'm just worried and i wanted to know if anyone had any advice. I'm outgoing, loud and i like to have fun....so i guess what i'm asking is: How hard is it to find a boyfriend in college? Are you THAT pressured to have sex? And is it hard to maintain being a virgin in college?
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College boy/sex advice for an incoming freshman.?
- Thread starter Cat
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For me college wasn't that catastrophically different than high school. Well... I guess in a way it's not all that people make it out to be. It depends on the crowd you hang out with. I don't normally waste my time with the new kids that get wasted at every pool party, I hang out with people who are just maturer than the rest. In general, we don't care about having sex with everyone we see or whatever. We take it easy and look for people who actually have something to say rather than someone with a funnel in their mouth. We're just cool like that.
Dating comes slow and easy, and it isn't like we need to be in a relationship with everyone in our group at least once. You like someone, you date them. Nothing major about it. Nothing shallow about it either.
Find the right crowd. Don't get fooled into believing all college kids dress up in togas and go home smelling like vomit. And sex isn't as major as you may feel it is. Just let it come when it does, don't give it to the first nice guy you see.
Be well.
Dating comes slow and easy, and it isn't like we need to be in a relationship with everyone in our group at least once. You like someone, you date them. Nothing major about it. Nothing shallow about it either.
Find the right crowd. Don't get fooled into believing all college kids dress up in togas and go home smelling like vomit. And sex isn't as major as you may feel it is. Just let it come when it does, don't give it to the first nice guy you see.
Be well.
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deb H
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Gee, maybe I'm stupid, but when I went to college it was to get an education. You can be a tramp and get sex anywhere.
Wow, I had these same questions when I was an incoming freshman. The thing is, at college people get really into the college scene and get drunk at frat parties and have sex bc the alcohol screws up their judgment. I think you should live the college life and party and join a sorority if you're really outgoing and like to have fun. Just be careful because if you are too wild people will find out and your reputation will be of an easy, slutty girl and then it will be hard to find a boyfriend. There are always good guys on college campuses...but be wary of frat guys because they tend to care less about settling down and care more about partying and hooking up with as many girls as possible.
And as for pressure to have sex...as long as alcohol isn't messing with you, you can make your own decision whether to lose your virginity or not. I was also a virgin going into college but I found the love of my life and lost my virginity willingly to him, and it was well worth the wait.
I guess overall, yes, there's peer pressure and alcohol that will cloud your judgment but you CAN find the right guy. You will meet sooo many people and despite what people say, there are definitely guys who want to settle down.
And as for pressure to have sex...as long as alcohol isn't messing with you, you can make your own decision whether to lose your virginity or not. I was also a virgin going into college but I found the love of my life and lost my virginity willingly to him, and it was well worth the wait.
I guess overall, yes, there's peer pressure and alcohol that will cloud your judgment but you CAN find the right guy. You will meet sooo many people and despite what people say, there are definitely guys who want to settle down.
I was in the same boat. Its hard to find a boyfriend in college because most guys that go there are just looking for a quick and easy lay. Be careful who you talk to, you may have your intentions but he has his own. He may sweet talk you till you give it up and leave you regretting it. Just be careful with the guys you talk to.
jack99skellington
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You will find a good boyfriend without really trying. Just try to get along with people, mix around, and be yourself. And don't worry about sex. Don't do it for a few months, that way you can weed out the guys how only want that.