I'll admit it, I'm a bit into the party scene but not what I'd classify as hardcore. Here's the story: I fell for a girl, and fell hard. She didn't like me till I was out of her reach. Her friend, fell for me, who's straight...go figure. I was never really attracted to her but we had our wild nights. This girl's friend also mentioned that she'd turn for me and pursued me in such a way that she came out on top. Everytime I go to a party, or gathering with my friends, they drunkenly express to me the multitude of girls who'll "turn" for me. Turn as in, disregard their straightness. It's all very tempting and I've given in many times but I cannot be some toy they come to get their thrills with. It's flattering that these women are attracted to me but they all flirt with me when their boys aren't around. How did you find a meaningful boyfriend/girlfriend? I just want to find that person who'll stick with me and not use me for my body. Somebody who'll enjoy the things I do and somebody I crave, not just for the drunk hookups. Sounds vain, but I have to say it's disheartening. What is the solution to finding meaninful relationships?
College bisexual; I can't seem to find anything but hookups, how do I avoid this?
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jacksonspaz
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Honestly, the only way to get out of this rut is to stop partying. Simple as that.
I used to party too. Not hardcore, but I did it every weekend pretty much, and I just looked for potential partners there. BAD IDEA.
Start looking in normal places for someone: clubs, mutual friend's places, classes, on-campus events, anything! 99% of the people at parties don't want anything meaningful. I learned that the hard way. But after I learned it, I stopped going to those things, did NORMAL stuff, and I was able to let fate (or karma, or luck, or whatever the hell you wanna call it) take its course, and find someone I truly cared about.
Good luck
I used to party too. Not hardcore, but I did it every weekend pretty much, and I just looked for potential partners there. BAD IDEA.
Start looking in normal places for someone: clubs, mutual friend's places, classes, on-campus events, anything! 99% of the people at parties don't want anything meaningful. I learned that the hard way. But after I learned it, I stopped going to those things, did NORMAL stuff, and I was able to let fate (or karma, or luck, or whatever the hell you wanna call it) take its course, and find someone I truly cared about.
Good luck