Closed Mind, No need for improvement, selfish mother?

[Sarah]

After years of trying to establish a relationship with my mother, we bought land together and agreed that I would live in her mobile home for no more than 2 months while my small house was built. After making dozens of repairs in her mobile home and spending close to $2000.00 and hard work in the heat and dark we are now under the same roof as mother. Every week she finds an excuse to fight. She says she wants to talk, but when we talk she never listens. She only talks and when it's my turn it's like she's thinking of what to say next. She calls me one night yelling at me about not being home for my husband. My husband and I have a beautiful relationship and extraordinary communication and talk throughout the day. Being that my brother (from dad's side) was in town and mother hates dad, I couldn't tell her the reason. Even at that, I shouldn't have to explain myself to my mother because I'm married to MY husband that I chose to be with, not my mother. Then she says I'm disrespecting her because I tell her to mind her own business, take care of her own relationship, and at least I don't bring men over and drink with them while my husband is out like she did when her boyfriend was in jail. She hates therapy, so that's out of the question. I tried working with her in therapy when I was a teenager and in foster care and all she did was laugh. I am trying to avoid her and she's knocking at my door at 10:30pm when my husband is asleep and has to get up at 4am unlike hers that says is looking for work and hasn't helped one bit around here like he should. This is not fair and they don't see it. I haven't been able to sleep. I thought of sleeping in a tent in our part of the land, but we don't even have a fence put up yet for the dogs to stay over there so, it would be worthless-she hates my dogs. By the way, I own 1.5 acres of land and my hubby and I are building our home together on his off days or when he gets home early like 6pm. My husband works a lot a lot!!! We have not gotten a "Thank You" from neither of them. Our tractor has broken several times because of logs, rocks etc that is not visible and we buy blades, belt etc and repair it ourselves and fill the tractor with gas. All her man has to say is "when are you guys fixing the tractor again?" or "have ya'll bought the belt yet? because I need to mow our yard" I hate this. Then, she tells everyone that this is her land just because she paid 3/4. Most of it is hers, which is 5.5 acres and we just paid for the 1.5 acres and still allowed her to pick where it would be ours because she didn't want to negotiate on where we could have our home built. I am losing my mind and don't know how to deal with her anymore. She calls me names and it drives me crazy. I hate being around her when she's drunk which is every weekend and I have to stay in the room and sneak in the Restroom when I gotta use it so that she won't start with me. I believe that she is mentally unstable because she says that her ways are very important on how to be a wife blah blah but she is a horrible one. She disrespects her man in front of people, they went to jail together for DWI and she has a Family Violence charge on her for making him bleed, she NEVER cooks. What is she talking about? Seems like I like my husband's mother more than her. She's not the regular "mother" type at all and it sucks.