Clingy Mother In Law?

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ok so.my MIL came over to see my daughter for her first b-day.ok we had a great time.i understand it was all about my daughter,it was her day,it's fine.we walked around the neighborhood and we just did stuff with my daughter.ok well my MIL always gets this attitude with me about anything,like when she suggests we get this we get that.i tell her that we have to save and get a little at the time.she mocks me repeats what i just said.like i said i wanted to start a nice garden and need to make a list about what i need,but didn't mean get it all at once.well she said "remember a little at the time, remember you said that, do you remember?" .BUT when my husband is around she stops.and he doesn't see it. it makes me mad.anyways she tries to finish my sentences. and when i'm talking to someone she interrupts and answers for them. she's driving me nuts.and it all began with my wedding. she took me to go look at flowers and when i didn't choose (Her friends) flower shop. she had a hissy fit.and told my husband.that i was just wasting her time.i didn't ask her to take me there. if she wanted flowers from that shop she should have just bought them herself.Yes it's been going on for about 1 1/2 yrs now.anyways i'm trying to talk to her,so we can work all this out, and she's avoiding me.she always tells me to be a better Christian.But she shows me the opposite of a good Christian. and i don't want my daughter growing up with a negative g-mother and a miserable mother. Anymore suggestions will be great thanks.
 
I agree completely with the first person who answered. You have to let your MIL know in no uncertain terms that her behavior is not only unacceptable, but I'd add in cruel and mean spirited. This situation is between you and her....keep your hubby (unless it's impossible) out of the picture. The very next time she starts, cut her off immediately, look her straight in the eye, and in a calm but cool tone say "You're trying to humiliate me. I don't know why, and I don't care why you do it, but I'm asking you to stop it IMMEDIATELY". If she kicks up a fuss simply turn and walk away. Don't give her another opportunity to denegrate you this way. It'll take some time but she'll eventually get the point after being ignored and getting no reaction a number of times. Much luck :)
 
Set the ground rules. You need to tell her straightforward that you do not appreciate her attitude. It's your life, your family, whatever decisions you make you will take the consequences for should they be bad decisions. It's no business of hers to order you around, you are an adult.
 
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