CHRISTIAN GIRLS HELP! IM A TOTAL SEX ADDICT!!!!!!!!!!!?

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Well, I have been friends with this girl (she's 15, I'm 14) for more than a year (and have liked her ever since). About six months ago, we had become best friends. But somtime back in maby feburary-april I started... fantasizing about her... Then we became best friends, and she became too close to me, so I quit thinking about her like that.
But after I got closer to God, I learned thinking like that was wrong, and now I'll go so far as to turn my head away if I see any cleavage on her.

But ever since she became my best friend, it's been eating me alive that I had EVER thought about her innapropriatly and I beat myself up about it every day. (And dont you dare tell me "it's natural" or "it's no big deal" it's a huge deal and she doesnt deserve that.)
I feel like I should appologize to her, but I'm really afferaid it'll screw up our friendship. I feel like I at least owe her an appology...

Please, what do I do, because I just want the guilt to go away...
Thanks guys, God bless.
 
Sometimes something as simple as deep breaths in and out, thinking about something else you're enthusiastic about. Every time you have an inappropriate thought, don't blame yourself - you're just saying to yourself I have these desires and I'll never get over it so I'll hate myself. Just clear your mind and think, what will I do next?
 
1) You are not a sex addict! 2) You've never acted on your feelings, so there is nothing to apologize about or feel guilty about. 3) You are human, these are just feelings.

Don't fight them, understand them. Seperate yourself from your thoughts. Your mind runs wild sometimes, but that isn't who you are. You are your actions. Are you a good friend to her? Are you caring, compassionate, generous? You obviously love her, and sometimes with love accompanies sexual feelings. Just don't act on them, that's all. If you suspect she feels the same way, and that she is single, maybe you should tell her? God intended for us to love members of the opposite sex.
 
It looks like the christians have done their job putting such a big guilt trip on you about your sexual fantasies. I won't bother to tell you it's natural since you don't want to hear it. LOL go ahead and believe the christians and have sexual problems the rest of your life.
 
Good grief, if this is what becoming a Christian has done to you why would you want to be one? You're not a sex addict but you do seem to be brain washed.
 
dude im just like u i told her because i know shes a great friend if you trust her enough then it wont hert to tell her
trust me were in the same boat
 
Despite what some misguided people will tell you, your feelings are totally normal and natural. Being repressed and denying your feelings is what is unnatural.

You are both young. Don't apologize, just let your friendship develop naturally.

If you really want the guilt to go away, change churches. Go to a more modern, progressive thinking church that is realistic and honest.
 
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