Child Support (Military Air Force)?

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miss lady

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I have a 21 month old son with a man in the military..Me and his dad were never married..Im wanting to know how child support is calculated? Would it go by how much the guy makes a month from the military including his bah and extra money he gets for having his son which he told me is an extra ($200) a month and then his rent and bills..compared to my rent and my bills..He makes more than me and im struggling so much to pay rent and my bills. His dad does pay for daycare on base and tricare..he buys diapers wipes and food .. but is it so wrong that i feel like i need more to keep a roof over his sons head..( I asked him instead of taking him up for child support to just to an allotment to my account ($200 every two weeks) he said no it was just like child support..and to ask him anytime his son needs wips diaper or food and he will go out and buy it..but he will not help me wiht anything else because the lease has my name on it and he does not live with us...advice please anyone that has been thru something like this?
im so confused i have people telling me if i take him up for child support the courts would like at that he is suppose to help me with everything since our son lives with me 24/7..then i have people telling me i couldnt get help from the court because the baby living with me means nothing...
"ladyc" i do understand why you asked this question..i am having trouble paying the rent because me ..my sons dad and our son use to live together but he kicked me out after saying he no longer wanted a relationship..i was not workign at that time..so i got a full time job and i moved to the cheapest place i could find in my area..i have applied for assitast but everyone says the same thing i need to show proof of child support before i can get help from the county i live in..so that tells me that if he is on child support that means its suppose to help me with rent for were me and our son lives...and one thing im not sure about is this other stuff he is paying for..he pays for daycare..food..wipes and diapers..when i dont pay for them
 
Child support is usually 20% of the non-custodial parents income that is claimed on taxes. Most states also require he sets up and pay for medical care plan, but you split the costs of treatment/medicine etc. From what I have seen (and I've seen alot) what I recieve from my son's father is pretty good, and that is just $360 a month which covers exactly my son's daycare and nothing else. I'd say what you are getting in your situation is pretty good if it means your son gets daycare...however is base daycare is cheap like I think it is, then maybe not. Plus it sucks that you have to call him up everytime you need some friggen diapers. Weigh your options. I personally decided to do court-ordered support just in case my ex tried to skip town, and when they set up support they also set up custody rules. I'm so glad I did that because now that I've married, my ex all of a sudden wants to be in my son's life and promises he will "teach my son to call his step-dad "Bob"" (instead of pa-pa like he does now). Fortunately due to the pre-set up custody guidlines he can't just demand to see him, he has to go through me.
 
Well first off you should be getting paid more than $400 a month if his pay checks are grater than $1200 and I am guessing that since he is getting BAH for having a child he is making more than $1200 a month. I don't know how far up in rank he is therefore I cannot help you with that.

You need to take him to court. The military obviously knows bout this child since he is getting the extra pay. He isn't being fair to you. Child support not only goes to diapers and formula but it also goes for clothing, shoes, food, a roof over that childs head and that will include bills. To "support" a child, a child will need all of that.

You need to contact a lawyer to get child support. He isn't doing his job for "child support" what so ever.

If you get a lawyer, make sure that you get one that has dealt with military cases before. As far as the Military goes. . he has a child.. his ass will pay child support to you. It gets a bit tricky when you are dealing with Military and Civilian sides together.

You don't get "extra money" for having a child .. the BAH rate just goes up a little bit.

Contact his command and inform them of what he is doing by not paying you or proving for his son and go to the JLC and speak to a JAG officer.. Military Lawyers basically.
You really should speak to a JAG than a civi lawyer.

Good luck hun!

First off. Military day care is based off of your pay. So if he is telling you he is spending 600 a month on day care he is a lying ass.
YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO A JAG OFFICER. ONLY THEY WILL BE ABLE TO TELL YOU FOR SURE WHAT WILL HAPPEN EVERY SITUATION WILL BE HANDLED DIFFERENTLY :)
Child support payments get very very tricky

Wait you said that he kicked you out? Does that mean he is taking care of this child by himself? That doesn't make sence to me.. how is the custody handled? That is another thing you will need to take care of in court as well, so he can't take that kid away from you.
 
Take him to court, get custody and child support established. It's for your own protection, as well as his.


They will look at his total monthly income and give you a percentage to help you raise your child.

That guy needs to understand, your child has more needs than diapers, wipes, and food. He needs clothing, shelter, electricity, gas in the car to get him to the doctors, etc. There's more to raising a kid, than simply feeding it and changing it's pants.

More than that, you shouldn't have to go beg for his assistance, that's demeaning. Seriously, I think this sort of thing is some sort of power struggle for some guys. Makes them feel important to have you under his thumb, dependent on his whims. Add to that, he doesn't want to cough up the cash.

By the by, the military frowns on this sort of thing. If I were you, I'd be speaking with JAG or the airforce equivilent, as well as his commanding officer about how he's not stepping up to the plate.

But seriously, get an attorney, and take it to court.

You will get help. That child deserves to have his needs met, and his father has an obligation to help you meet those needs financially.
 
My first question wants to be is why are you having trouble paying the rent.? Is the rent to high.. do you think you need to move to a cheaper place..?

I don't want you or anyone to hate me but if he is helping with the baby and paying for daycare and diapers and wipes and food and other things, why should he also have to help you pay for rent..

YES, I know he needs to help with his child..but if he is doing that why does he need to help you more..?
 
They would go by his LES (leave and earning statement). This lists all of his income from the military.

If he ever gives you a hard time about payment all you have to do is call up his command and they will make sure he pays you. Simple as that. He knows this.
 
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