i really think it depends. with all the absent fathers these days, it does put the men in a bad light. If the judge sees that the father is stepping up and doing the right thing, he will have a fair trial. I think a lot of women put their ex-husbands through hell, because they are hurt and most time left with all the responsibility of the children, house, etc. It really needs to be for the children, whether or not the two parents get along.
I've been through hell with my ex, because he is one of those men that doesn't pay child support and doesn't make an effort to help me with our daughter. But I do not make him look bad in court. his actions do that for him. We do not get along because I do get on his case about his responsibilities.
I do not think the courts want to put the father's to shame. They want to make sure the children are being taken care of. And that means having the fathers pay their child support and take part in their childrens lives. Not to say there aren't men hating judges out there. But if I had to sit there all day and hear how fathers aren't stepping up, I'd probably be biased too.
